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It's often heard that love is sharp and hate is sharper,but jealousy(妒忌)is the sharpest as it's love and hate at the same time.It's an emotion which creates negativity,and feelings of fear,anxiety,and insecurity.Jealousy is an ugly green monster which preys on each one of us at different points of our lives.Jealousy is defined as a protective reaction to an imagined threat to a valued relationship,arising from a situation in which the partner's involvement in an activity of with another person is contrary to the jealous person's definition of their relationship.
Jealousy is an imperfect blend of sadness,anger,disgust,and resentment.It has destroyed many perfect relationships and caused huge emotional distress to the jealous person as well as his family or friends.Extreme cases of jealousy have even been a cause for murders and suicides.Jealousy is one of the most common human emotions and is experienced by either gender.It is not culture specific and shows its presence from the age of 6months onward.
There are several main common types of jealousy.One of them is workplace jealousy,which is a commonly observed jealousy occurring between colleagues in a workplace.It's often known to turn up when there is a lack of appreciation for the work and efforts made by an employee.Often,there is a general feeling of jealousy between colleagues with similar job profiles,when only one of them gets promoted,or gets a pay raise.This creates a feeling of disappointment and jealousy in the heart of an employee.
Another common type is platonic jealousy.This type of jealousy is often mistaken as romantic,but one must remember that there is a thin line of difference between the two.This jealousy can most commonly be seen in friendships,when one fears losing a friend to a more interesting or friendly person.The emotional attachment with your own friend is so much that you can't imagine them with someone else.Platonic jealousy was aptly shown in the popular comic books called Archie where both Betty and Veronica try to vie Archie.
Sibling(兄弟姐妹)jealousy,commonly seen in families across the world,is also one common type of jealousy.
There is a general sense of competition amongst children to be their parent's favorite child.There is a display of jealousy on arrival of a new sibling,on being made to share favorite toys,clothes,or other facilities,on being showered lesser attention,and experiencing lesser love than siblings,on experiencing a negative comparison made between siblings by parents or even when a sibling is smarter or more talented that another.
Jealousy isn't a good thing; fortunately,it's possible to gradually deal with it.This requires initiative(主动性)and full support from the person facing the problem as well as his loved ones.The person himself shouldn't deny the existence of such a problem.As to siblingjealousy,Parents are advised to deal with this problem in a positive way as soon as it is detected,else sibling rivalry can have some serious effects and cause a lifelong rift and tension between siblings.When dealing with workplace jealousy,you should be professional,approach your seniors and demand a recheck of your assessment.Nowadays,organizations are being forced to apply scientific methods of evaluation systems so as to create faimess in assessment.The methods applied have helped justify the assessment results and reduce jealousy between colleagues.
So why get annoyed about your fate and get jealous of others?Love yourself and be assured about your capabilities.Give life your best shot and before your know it,things will start falling in place.
Jealousy |
General(71)introduction | ◆Jealousy refers to mixed emotions of anxiety and insecurity. ◆People feel jealous with the purpose of (72)protectingthemselves when they feel(73)threatenedby another person. ◆Jealousy can get a perfect relationship (74)destroyedand result in negative emotions. |
Common types of jealousy | Workplace jealousy | Workplace jealousy occurs when colleagues get (75)differentlevels of appreciation for their work and efforts. |
Platonic jealousy | A person is jealous of another person who will(76)replacehim/her as a friend of his emotionally attached one. |
Sibling jealousy | Sibling jealousy occurs when you share your things with your siblings(77)unwillingly/reluctantly/passively,receive lesser attention than them or are compared negatively with them. |
Tips on(78)handing/tackling/approachingjealousy | ◆(79)Admitthe jealousy and then take action to control it. ◆Make (80)fair/justassessment to reduce jealousy between colleagues. |