Question

Most people say “yes” much more readily than “no”.

A friend is moving house this weekend and would like some help, and you agree. But, what you really wanted was a couple of quiet days relaxing at home. Or a roommate spends the entire weekends playing video games and wants to borrow your homework for “reference”. But, you’ve just finished it after taking a whole day to work hard.

Many people say “yes” to these kinds of requests. They tend not to consider their own interests and feelings, and are often angry with themselves afterwards.

Saying “no” requires courage and considerable practice, in fact, according to psychologists.

“Everyone wants to be liked,” says Gabriele Steinki, a German psychologist. “Saying ‘no’ risks losing the affection of the person asking the favor or even a job.”

The result is that many people say “yes” just for keeping the peace. But experts say this is regrettable. Anyone should have the right to say “no”.

In fact, rejecting a request can even help to strengthen a relationship because it expresses a true feeling.

But, for people used to agreeing to every request, changing can be a long and uncomfortable learning process.

Most people believe that “If I say ‘no’, I'll lose the affection of the person. But the affection is important to me.” This way of thinking can be replaced by this: “If he only likes me because I always do what suits him , then the price of his affection is too high in the long term.”

Steinki says the key is talking to the other person to find a mutual (相互的) solution. “One heeds to present the situation from one’s own point of view, and to suggest how the situation can be dealt with to the advantage of both parties. The other person must have the feeling that his interests are being considered.”

When the refusal is not accepted, Steinki advises giving the reasons calmly again until the person gets the message.

1.Most people say “yes” much more readily than “no” because ________.

A. they don’t care about their own interests and feelings

B. they don’t know they will regret afterwards

C. they have already been used to saying “yes”

D. they care more about others’ affection

2. In the opinion of experts, _________ .

A. people need a lot of practice to say “no”

B. people should say “yes” to keep the peace

C. saying “no” means losing a job

D. people have the right to be liked

3.According to the writer, what should you do if you want to refuse the other person’s request?

A. Just say you can’t help him.

B. Say sorry to him.

C. Refuse him clearly.

D. Talk to the other person to find a mutual way.

4.According to the writer, what should you do if your refusal is not accepted?

A. Say yes to him.

B. Repeat your reason for his acceptance

C. Just go away

D. Say no to him

5.What is the best title of the passage?

A. You Need Courage To Say “No”

B. “Yes” More Than “No”

C Anyone Has The Right To Say “No”

D. It’s Hard To Say “No”

Answer 1

1.D

2.A

3.D

4.B

5.A

【解析】

试题分析：本文主要讲了大部分人会对别人的请求说“好”，人们害怕说“不”会失去友情。然而必要时，我们要对别人的请求说“不”，作者就如何拒绝别人的请求给了我们一些建议。

1.细节理解题。根据文章倒数第三段第一句Most people believe that “If I say ‘no’, I'll lose the affection of the person. But the affection is important to me.”可知大部分人说不说“不”的原因是他们怕别人不再喜爱他们。故选D。

2.推理判断题。根据文章倒数第四段中的changing can be a long and uncomfortable learning process.改变是一个长期的学习的过程，可推测出A选项人们需要练习去说“不”是正确的。故选A。

3.细节理解题。根据文章倒数第二段第一句话Steinki says the key is talking to the other person to find a mutual (相互的) solution.可知D选项正确。

4.细节理解题。根据文章最后一段When the refusal is not accepted, Steinki advises giving the reasons calmly again until the person gets the message.可知当拒绝不被接受时，要将原因再说一遍，直到他接受为止。D选项：重复你的理由让他接受，同文章表达的意思相同。故选D。

5.标题判断题。文章主要告诉我们需要对别人的请求说“不”。故选A。

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