20．There is a problem each of us faces in following advice on emotional healing：apologizing is difficult．We are trapped in what we think of ourselves by holding onto our pride．We can be selfish and not willing to admit our most obvious mistakes．Pride eats away at us as we argue or ignore the mistake．
It's happened to me．I have had too much pride and selfishness to apologize to a loved one I hurt．When I did want to apologize，I couldn't bring myself to face the other person．This is the pride I'm talking about．Maybe apologies come difficult for men because they're expected to be dominant （占优势的）．It's like the joke that a man never asks for directions when lost．Ladies are more emotionally open than guys and are willing to express it．Still，both genders wonder how to correctly apologize．
In shifting （改变）the focus on apologizing away from you，what does not apologizing do to other people？They feel hurt that you are not willing to communicate your mistake．They lose trust in you as you hide behind your mistake avoiding reality．They become angry with you，wondering why you will not tell them the truth．They may begin to counter your lack of apologies by not apologizing themselves and from this the relationship goes downhill as the two of you get caught in a power struggle．
You need to communicate your mistakes．A mistake you made is like a scratch and by not apologizing you are making the scratch a deeper wound and rubbing salt into it．You need to stop hurting the other person and yourself by learning to apologize．There is real power in apologizing and emotional healing．
35．People find it hard to apologize for their mistakes because of theirB
A．emotional feeling
B．sticking to their pride
C．making argument
D．being trapped in lies
36．Why are men more unwilling to make apologies？C
A．They don't intend to hurt other people．
B．They expect others to forgive them．
C．They don't want to be considered weak．
D．They aren't good at expressing themselves．
37．What bad effect will there be if you refuse to apologize for your mistakes？D
A．Other people won't pay attention to you…
B．You will lose confidence in．yourself．
C．You won't be forgiven even if you tell the truth．
D．The friendship will get hurt and go worse．
38．From the last paragraph，it can be inferred thatC
A．communication can stop your making mistakes
B．mistakes would turn into deeper scratches
C．apologizing is good for you and the other person
D．apologizing is the most powerful in emotional healing．
分析 本文是关注社会生活的说明文，每个人都会犯错，但是很多人特别是男性犯错后内心很自私，甚至不愿意为很显然的错误道歉；因为自己的骄傲不愿意承认的错误，也不愿意向别人道歉．作者从被伤害的人的角度分析了不道歉会产生的影响，最终说明这不但对自己有害，还会伤害别人，进而影响人与人之间的关系．
解答 35．B．细节理解题．由第一段的We are trapped in what we think of ourselves by holding onto our pride可知，人们不愿意道歉是因为内心的骄傲，故选B项．
36．C．推理判断题．由第二段的Maybe apologies come difficult for men because they're expected to be dominant可知，男士通常被认为处于主导地位，所以他们不愿意示弱，故选C项．
37．D．细节理解题．由第三段"They feel hurt…They lose trust in you…They become angry with you…They may begin…by not apologizing themselves and from this the relationship goes downhill"可知，如果你不为自己的错误道歉的话，就会失去朋友对你的信任，然后对方也不会向你道歉，最终导致友谊的破裂，故D项正确．
38．C．推理判断题．由You need to stop hurting the other person and yourself by learning to apologize可知，道歉对犯错的人和受伤害的人都有好处，故选C项．交流错误就是道歉，但是道歉不能防止人犯错，故A项错误；犯错后及时道歉就不会使伤害加深，故B项错误；由文章最后一句话There is real power in apologizing and emotional healing可知D项错误，因为文中没有说明是"most powerful"．
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