Question

【题目】 It's tough to see or hear of a friend in crisis. One idea to keep in mind is that it is healthy for the distressed person to feel what he or she feels in the moment. When a person in crisis feels understood, he or she feels less alone and connected to the person who understands.

A person who experiences empathy(同理心)from a friend who can “go there”for a few minutes in order to authentically understand while still maintaining a strong and supportive attitude may be relieving and healing. While a friend is telling you about the circumstance, the first and most important step is to listen for feelings, not ways to solve the problem.

For example, a friend is terribly upset because her husband is threatening to leave her. After fully honoring the feelings, it is important to ask the friend what would help. Maybe it is a good cry and some ice cream. Perhaps it's a glass of wine and a walk. Everyone has different ways of dealing. Be respectful and ask the friend what she needs or wants, not what you prescribe.

Take a second example, say a close friend is being misrepresented by other friends. The friends are gossiping about her. During a conversation with her, listen for feelings. Honor her hurt and shock. The same equation is useful with a partner.

Helping a friend or partner in crisis not only helps the person, but creates closeness and trust in the relationship, making opening up in the probable future. In addition, the person who is empathizing feels positive because he or she was able to help. When a person is truly able to comfort and reassure a loved one, he or she feels vital and useful, strengthening the relationship.

【1】What should we do first when we know a friend is in crisis？

A.Keep away from him/her.

B.Buy him/her a glass of wine.

C.Understand how he/she feels.

D.Show him/her ways to solve the problem.

【2】What does the underlined word “it” in paragraph 3 refer to？

A.A way to solve the crisis.B.A way to relieve a bad mood.

C.A way to listen for feelings.D.A way to honor the feelings.

【3】How does the author prove his/her idea？

A.By listing data.B.By quoting sayings.

C.By giving examples.D.By conducting surveys.

【4】What does the text mainly talk about？

A.How to keep a loved one.B.How to make new friends.

C.How to work with your partner.D.How to help a friend in trouble.

Answer 1

【答案】

【1】C

【2】B

【3】C

【4】D

【解析】

本文是议论文。讲述如何帮助处于危机中的朋友。作者认为最重要的是倾听朋友的感情而不是解决问题的方法，并通过例子证明了自己的想法。

【1】

细节理解题。根据第二段的While a friend is telling you about the circumstance, the first and most important step is to listen for feelings, not ways to solve the problem.(当朋友告诉你关于这种情况的时候，第一步也是最重要的一步是倾听感情，而不是解决问题的方法)可知，当我们知道一个朋友处于危机中时，我们首先应该理解他或她的感觉。故选C。

【2】

词句猜测题。根据上文After fully honoring the feelings, it is important to ask the friend what would help(在充分尊重感情之后，重要的是问问朋友需要什么帮助)可推断，下文Maybe it is a good cry and some ice cream. Perhaps it's a glass of wine and a walk. Everyone has different ways of dealing. 阐述也许它是好好的哭一场和一些冰淇淋，也许是一杯酒和散散步，每个人有不同的处理方法，因此推断it指的是缓解坏心情的方法。故选B。

【3】

推理判断题。文章一、二两段作者提出了自己的想法，理解和倾听处于危机的朋友是困难的，重要的是倾听他或她的感觉，而不是给予解决问题的办法，根据第三段的For example, a friend is terribly upset...和第四段的Take a second example可知，作者接下来通过两个例子证明了这个想法。故选C。

【4】

主旨大意题。纵观全文，第一段作者提出了文章的中心，由It's tough to see or hear of a friend in crisis. One idea to keep in mind is that it is healthy for the distressed person to feel what he or she feels in the moment.(很难理解或倾听处于危机中的朋友。 要记住的一个想法是，对于痛苦的人感受此刻他或她的感受是健康的。)以及第二段的While a friend is telling you about the circumstance, the first and most important step is to listen for feelings, not ways to solve the problem.(当朋友告诉你情况的时候，第一步也是最重要的一步是倾听感情，而不是解决问题的方法。)可知，本文主要讲述如何帮助有困难的朋友。故选D。