Just listen
I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our 36 , and especially if it’s given from the 37 . When people are talking, there’s no need to do anything but 38 them. Just take them 39 . Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than 40 it.
One of my patients told me that when she 41 to tell her story, people often 42 to tell her that they had once had something just like that happen to her. Subtly her pain became a story about themselves. 43 she stopped talking to most people. It was just too 44 . We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand, we move the 45 of attention to ourselves. But when we listen, they know we care.
I have ever learned to 46 to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the tissues(纸巾) 47 I realized that passing a person a tissue may be just another way to shut them 48 , to take them out of their 49 of sadness and pain. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there 50 them.
This 51 thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been 52 since I was very young at school. I thought people listened only because they were too 53 to speak or did not know the answer. A loving silence often has far more 54 to connect than the most well-intentioned 55 .
36．A．introduction B．instruction C．attention D．relaxation
37．A．head B．memory C．mind D．heart
38．A．talk to B．listen to C．object to
D．stick to
39．A．in B．up C．off D．away
40．A．denying B．remembering C．questioning D．understanding
41．A．managed B．tried C．hoped D．expected
42．A．encouraged B．interrupted C．discouraged D．urged
43．A．Eventually B．Immediately C．Completely D．Especially
44．A．impolite B．meaningless C．lonely D．selfish
45．A．middle B．focus C．center D．choice
46．A．respond B．compare C．link D．regret
47．A．unless B．if C．until D．when
48．A．down B．away C．in D．off
49．A．experiment B．mixture C．judgment D．experience
50．A．with B．against C．for D．among
51．A．complex B．simple C．complicated D．single
52．A．mentioned B．published C．taught D．proved
53．A．shy B．greedy C．active D．proud
54．A．strength B．energy C．power D．force
55．A．gestures B．praise C．criticism D．words
科目：高中英语 来源： 题型：
On Thursday I will have to decide what I want myself 1. _______
to do over a weekend. I am thinking of making a trip 2. _______
to London, and visit the British Museum and some 3. _______
parks. But I have spent lots my money, so I cannot 4. _______
even go out of town. I may go to a film, or a concert. 5. _______
Yes, a concert can be very excited. You can watch your 6. _______
stars while enjoying your favorite music. So then, a 7. _______
concert cost so much. I may just listen to music, I have 8. _______
some records giving to me as birthday gifts. If I listen 9. _______
to my own records, there are no need to spend money. 10. _______
All right. That' s what I' m going to do.
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科目：高中英语 来源：2011年安徽省六校教育研究会高一新生入学素质测试英语卷 题型：阅读理解
One of the most important things in the world is friendship. In order to have friends, you have to be a friend. But how can you be a good friend at school?
Listen—Listen when they are talking. Don’t say anything unless they ask you a question. Sometimes it’s not necessary for you to have anything to say; they just need someone to talk to about their feelings.
Help them
—If your friend is ever in need of something, be there to help them. You should try to put them first, but make sure you don’t do everything they want you to do. Try to take an extra pencil or pen with you to classes in case they forget one. Have a little extra money in your pocket in case they forget something they need.
Be there for them—Be there for your friends to help make them feel better in hard times. Marilyn Monroe, a famous U.S. actor, once said, “I often make mistakes. Sometimes I am out of control, but if you can’t stay with me at my worst, you are sure not to deserve to be with me at my best.” Always remember this! If you don’t want to stay with your friends when they’re in hard times, then you don’t deserve to be with th
em when they’re having a good time!
_________—Try to make plans with your friends. Go shopping, go for ice cream, have a party, go to a movie and so on. Take time to know each other even better by doing something you both enjoy. By planning things together, you both can have a good time. And you’ll remember these things when you’re all old!
【小题1】 While your friend is talking to you about his or her feelings, you should______________.
| A．give him or her some advice |
| B．just listen unless asked |
| C．calm him or her down |
| D．share your feelings as well |
| A．try to do everything for them |
| B．put them before ourselves |
| C．change their bad habits first |
| D．ignore their faults |
A．Life without a fri end is death. |
| B．A friend is easier lost than found. |
| C．A friend in need is a friend indeed. |
| D．A man is known by his friends. |
| A．Make plans | B．Enjoy yourself |
| C．Understand your friends | D．Play with your friends |
| A．how to find a good friend | B．how to help friends in trouble |
| C．How to be a good friend | D．how to make more friends |
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科目：高中英语 来源：2014届河南安阳一中高二下期第二次阶段测试英语卷（解析版） 题型：阅读理解
I suppose that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention. And especially if it’s given from the heart. When people are talking, there’s no need to do anything but receive them. Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than understanding it. Most of us don’t value ourselves or our love enough to know this. It has taken me a long time to believe in the power of simple saying “I’m so sorry,” when someone is in pain.
One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story people often interrupted to tell her that they once had something just like that happening to them. Her pain became a story about them. Eventually, she stopped talking to most people. We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand, we move the focus of attention to ourselves. When we listen, they know we care.
I have even learned to respond to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the handkerchiefs, until I realized that passing a person a handkerchief may be just another way to shut him down, to take them out of their experience of sadness. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there with them.
This simple thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been taught since I was very young. I thought people listened only because they were too shy to speak or did not know the answer. But now I know that a loving silence often has far more power to heal than the kindest words.
1.What does the author value most in the communication with each other?
A．Deep understanding B．Saying “I’m Sorry”.
C．Attention from heart. D．Doing nothing.
2.The woman patient stopped telling her story to most people because ______.
A．She didn’t get enough respect from others
B．she was discouraged by being often interrupted
C．people often told her their own opinions
D．people couldn’t understand her sad situation
3. If you hand a handkerchief to someone crying, you may ______.
A．hurt his feelings B．make him embarrassed
C．encourage him to continue to cry D．stop him from letting out his sorrow
4. It can be inferred from the passage that while communicating, ______.
A．listening is a perfect way to respond to others
B．people keep silent because they don’t know the answer
C．keeping silent means being too shy to speak
D．it is easy to form the habit of listening silently
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科目：高中英语 来源：2014届海南琼海嘉积中学高二上教学质量监测（三）英语试卷（解析版） 题型：完型填空
My grandson is seven now. He lives 100 miles away. He 36 my mobile phone number when he was only four. 37 , he has called me every night.
He also 38 calls me at other times during the day just to 39 a happy or sad moment. Many times he is holding a basketball with one hand, or 40 with a friend about something I don’t quite 41 , or crying about something. I just 42 and laugh or cry with him — just share his emotion. I always let him be in 43 of the conversation, the emotion, and the amount of time he’s on the 44 with me. Many times I just listen to him 45 or listen while he does his homework aloud.
The 46 time I take control of the conversation is when he’s 47 to say goodbye at night. Then I say, “I love you, baby”. One 48 I thought maybe he was 49 of hearing those words, so I didn’t say them. He immediately called me back and told me that I 50 to say the sentence! Since then I have never 51 saying it again!
All my friends know he takes precedence over (比……重要) all other things. If I’m at a place where I really can’t take his 52 , I always excuse myself and 53 tell him I’ll call him back in a few minutes. I want him to know that he takes first place in my 54 .
Every child needs at least one 55 in their life to listen and share with. I am glad to give my grandson the love he needs.
1. A．memorized B．kept C．noticed D．wrote
2. A．Once again B．Since then C．Later on D．Shortly after
3. A．briefly B．directly C．instantly D．frequently
4. A．express B．discuss C．share D．mark
5. A．comparing B．laughing C．studying D．quarrelling
6. A．understand B．enjoy C．believe D．remember
7. A．look B．talk C．sit D．listen
8. A．charge B．need C．support D．face
9. A．conversation B．phone C．way D．game
10. A．play B．sleep C．lie D．act
11. A．last B．only C．perfect D．right
12. A．willing B．determined C．ready D．eager
13. A．day B．night C．weekend D．morning
14. A．afraid B．tired C．aware D．ashamed
15. A．decided B．learnt C．agreed D．forgot
16. A．escaped B．failed C．missed D．denied
17. A．invitation B．call C．help D．attention
18. A．naturally B．politely C．simply D．happily
19. A．work B．brain C．appointment D．heart
20. A．friend B．grandparent C．adult D．teacher
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科目：高中英语 来源：2010-2011学年河南省卫辉市高三一月月考英语试题 题型：阅读理解
Michael is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better, I’d be twins!” He was a natural motivator.
One day I went up to Michael and asked him, “I don’t get it. You can’t be positive all the time. How do you do it?”
Michael replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself ‘Mike, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or a bad mood.’ I choose the first. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.” Michael continued, “Life is all about choices. The bottom line is: It’s your choice how you live life.”
Several years later, Michael was involved in a serious accident, falling off 60 feet from a communications tower. I saw him about six months after the accident. I asked him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place.
He said, “I first thought of my soon-to-born daughter and then remembered I had two choices: I could choose to live or I could choose to die. I chose to live. I knew I needed to take action. So when a nurse kept shouting questions at me asking if I was allergic to anything, I took a deep breath and yelled, ‘Gravity’. Over their laughter, I told them, ‘I’m choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead’.”
Michael lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude.
1.Which of the following statements is true?
A. Michael is a person whom people don’t like very much.
B. Michael knows how to learn from bad things in life.
C. Doctors thought Michael was dead.
D. The author didn’t think Michael was a happy person.
2.According to Michael, when someone complains to you, you should ____________.
A. share your own experiences with him
B. just listen to what the person says and feel sorry for him
C. tell the person to look at the happy side of life instead of just listening
D. discuss with the person and tell him to reflect on the complaints
3.The author quotes Michael’s words “If I were any better, I’d be twins!” to tell us ____________.
A. Michael wants to have a twin brother
B. Michael is not satisfied with his present life
C. Michael is always optimistic
D. Michael likes to change his mood
4.Which of the following best summarizes the main idea?
A. Accidents will happen.
B. When God shuts a door, he opens another.
C. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
D. Attitude is everything.
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