19．One of the greatest sources of unhappiness，in my experience，is the difficulty we have in accepting things as they are．
When we see something we don't like，we wish it could be different．We cry out for something better．That may be human nature，or perhaps it's something ingrained（根深蒂固的） in our culture．The root of the unhappiness isn't necessarily that we want things to be different．However，it's that we decided we didn't like it in the first place．We've judged it as bad，rather than saying，"It's not bad or good，and it just is it．"
In one of my books，I said"You should expect people to mess up and expect things to go differently than you planned"．Some readers said it's too sorrowful to expect things to go wrong．However，it's only negative if you see it as negative and judge it as bad．Instead，you could accept it as the way the world works and try to understand why that is．
This can be applied to whatever you do：how other people act at work，how politics works and how depressing the news media can be．Accept these things as they are，and try to understand why they're that way． It will save you a lot of sadness，because you'll no longer say，"Oh．1wish bad things didn't happen!''
Does it mean you can never change things？Not at a11．But change things not because you can't accept things as they are，but because you enjoy the process of changing，learning and growing．
Can we make this world a better place？You can say that you'11continue to try to do things to help others，to grow as a person，to make a difference in this world．That's the correct path you choose to take，because you enjoy that path．Therefore，when you find yourself judging and wishing for difference，try a different approach：accept，and understand．It might lead to some interesting results．
41．The author believes that we feel unhappy maybe becauseD．
A．it is our natural emotion in the life
B．culture asks us to be different from others
C．everyone has their own opinions on things
D．we dislike something in the beginning
42．Some readers think the words in the author's book is tooA．
A．depressing B．frightening C．delighting D．idealistic
43．In Paragraph 4，the underlined word"it"refers toC．
A．acting well at work and in politics
B．feeling depressed for the news media
C．accepting and understanding what has happened
D．saying something negative when bad things come
44．In the last paragraph，you are advisedD．
A．to help others and make a difference
B．to enjoy what you have to do in the work
C．to judge yourself and make a wish for you
D．to try a new way when making the world better
45．What is the main theme of the passage？B
A．Expecting things to be different gives us hope．
B．Accepting can make our life happier and better．
C．Traditional culture becomes root of unhappiness．
D．Judging good or bad is important for our world．
分析 文中首先提出问题人们为什么会不快乐呢，在作者看来，人们不快乐的根源是不愿意接受事物本来的样子，总想试图把它们改变成自己喜欢的样子．在文中作者建议人们要学会去接受、理解事物本来的面貌，本质，然后就会有意想不到的收获．
解答 41．D 细节理解题．根据文章第二段The root of the unhappiness isn't necessarily that we want things to be different．However，it's that we decided we didn't like it in the first place可以判断作者认为人们不快乐的根源是从开始我们就不喜欢某些东西，不愿意接受它们本来的样子，故选D．
42．A 细节理解题．从文章第三段Some readers said it's too sorrowful to expect things to go wrong可知一些读者认为作者的话太过消沉，悲观，故选A．
43．C 词义猜测题．根据上文Accept these things as they are，and try to understand why they're that way可知此处it指代前面内容，即：接受事物本来的样子，尽量去理解它们为什么会是那样子，故选C．
44．D 细节理解题，根据文章的末段末句when you find yourself judging and wishing for difference，try a different approach：accept，and understand．It might lead to some interesting results可知作者建议人们如果让事情有所改观就要去尝试新的方法，故选D．
45．B 主旨大意题．文章开头提出人们不快乐的根源是不愿意接受事物本来的样子，然后进一步分析说明，最后建议人们为了快乐就要学会接受、理解．由此可知B选项内容能体现文章中心，故选B．
点评 做阅读理解时要快速的浏览全文，把握文章主旨大意，带着问题回到原文，寻找细节或概括相应的答案，最后要理清作者写作思路．
