When a friend approaches you in the heat of a moment, it can be hard to know what to say. There’ no blanket approach for every person through every crisis (危急), but a few guidelines could help you offer the best support.
Friends going through a crisis often just need someone to talk to and explore their feelings with, but the trick is to listen without sounding like you’re judging. Reorganize “why” questions, which can imply you’re questioning their judgment, but ‘how’ and ‘what’ questions, and ‘who’ and ‘when’ seem caring and sincere.
Open-ended questions that can’t be answered with a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ will also help friends dig into their deepest feelings during a crisis. While your loved ones talk through their replies, practice active listening by focusing on their answers. After all, your friends probably just need someone to listen and prove them, rather than hearing you offer potentially unhelpful advice.
When you do respond,avoid telling friends in crisis how they “should” be feeling. “ ‘Should’ is not a valid term, saying it’s not OK for you to feel these societally ‘weak’ feelings,” says Michelle Kuchuk, director of training for Crisis Text Line. “If you’re only hearing ‘you should feel great’, you’re never going to speak again or get that weight off your chest if you think other people will judge you.”
On the other hand, tying those positive feelings to a specific action can feel more sincere. If friends hear “you’re so strong” without an example to back it up, they might never believe it. But if they’ve been explaining how hard it was to talk to someone else, praise them for taking that brave step.
Finally, it’s more important for a friend to know you’re there for support than stressing about saying the right thing during a crisis. Just be a friend and really listen to that person, not with your own agenda but “what is this person really going through?”
1.Who is this passage intended for?
A. People to be consultants. B. People in need of support.
C. People going through a crisis. D. People supporting friends in crisis.
2.What is your most suitable question to ask one talking to you?
A. Who did that1? B. When did you start it?
C. How did you feel about it1? D. Why did you feel that way?
3.What does the underlined part mean in the 4th paragraph?
A. Tell the truth out. B. Relieve their pressure.
C. Keep everything secret. D. Leave your baggage behind.
4.What is suggested to respond to your friends’ talking?
A. Preparing your questions beforehand.
B. Giving them as many instructions as possible.
C. Praising them constantly by encouraging words.
D. Expressing your appreciation for a small behavior.
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