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【题目】 A conversation with a good listener is like a good meal—we walk away feeling satisfied and happy. 【1】 Here are 4 ways to make your conversation partner feel like you’re fully tuned in to their personal radio station.

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Making your conversation partner feel safe starts with two things: an open mind and keeping judgment to yourself. Just as immersing（沉浸）yourself in a novel requires suspension of disbelief, immersing yourself in listening requires suspension of opinions or advice. While judgments may appear into your head, set them to the side.

Ask questions to follow your natural curiosity.

When you’re interested, ask questions. 【3】 Ask for examples. Ask for details. Following your natural curiosity by asking questions not only shows you are listening and interested, but almost always produces an interesting story.

Listen with your whole body.

In many a kindergarten classroom, teachers emphasize something called “whole body listening”. It goes like this: use your eyes to watch nonverbal（非语言）, your brain to think about what is being said, your heart to feel emotions and keep the rest of your body quiet to show respect. But many of us lose it over time, especially as life gets busy. The result? We often try to multitask while listening. 【4】

Validate（使生效）with simple phrases.

Keep in your back pocket some validating words and phrases to show you’ve heard someone.

“Of course.” “That makes sense.” “Naturally.” “Clearly.” “For sure.” 【5】 In conversation, combining those little phrases: “Of course you feel that way.” or “That makes total sense.” doesn’t necessarily convey agreement, but it does convey something even bigger： acceptance.

A. Create safety.

B. Devote yourself to listening.

C. It’s appealing to talk about your own experience.

D. We half-listen while getting things done or staring at a screen.

E. Think like a journalist and ask what, when, where, why or how.

F. But being a good listener goes way beyond just not interrupting or nodding your head.

G. All of these statements confirm a person’s experience or feelings as worthy and accepted.

Answer 1

【答案】

【1】F

【2】A

【3】E

【4】D

【5】G

【解析】

本文是一篇说明文。和一个好的倾听者交谈就像一顿美餐——我们离开时感到满足和快乐。文章介绍了4种方法可以让你的谈话对象感觉你已经完全适应了他们的个人广播电台。

【1】上句提到“和一个好的倾听者交谈就像一顿美餐——我们离开时感到满足和快乐。”再根据下文提示“这里有4种方法可以让你的谈话对象感觉你已经完全适应了他们的个人广播电台。”承接上下文，F项But being a good listener goes way beyond just not interrupting or nodding your head.“但是，做一个好的倾听者不只是不插嘴只点头。”切题。此处的关键词是listener。

【2】此空是小标题，应该用短小精悍的句子。根据下文提到“让你的谈话对象感到安全，从两件事开始：---。”承接下文，A项Create safety.“创造安全”切题。该项中的safety与下文中的safe对应。

【3】上文提到“当你感兴趣的时候，问问题。”承接上文，E项Think like a journalist and ask what, when, where, why or how.“像记者一样思考，问什么，什么时候，在哪里，为什么，怎么做。”切题。该项中的what, when, where, why or how.与上文的questions对应。

【4】上文提到“但随着时间的推移，我们中的许多人会失去它，尤其是当生活变得忙碌的时候。结果呢?我们经常在听的时候尝试一心多用。”承接上文，D项We half-listen while getting things done or staring at a screen.“我们在完成任务或盯着屏幕的时候似听非听。”切题。该项中的half-listen与multitask对应。

【5】上文提到““Of course.” “That makes sense.” “Naturally.” “Clearly.” “For sure.””承接上文，G项All of these statements confirm a person’s experience or feelings as worthy and accepted.“所有这些陈述都证实了一个人的经历或感觉是值得和被接受的。”切题。该项中的these statements与上文的“Of course.” “That makes sense.” “Naturally.” “Clearly.”对应。