Many parents have learned the hard way that what sounds like open communication is often the very thing that closes a youngster’s ears and mouth. One common mistake is the Lecture, the long monologue that often starts with “When I was your age….” Eighteen-year-old Kelly calls lectures “long, one-side discussions in which I don’t say much.”
Kids reflexively(条件反射地) shut down in the face of a lecture. Their eyes glaze over, and they don’t register any incoming information. Listen to 13-year-old Sarah describe her least favorite times with her mom and dad. “First, they scream. Then comes the ‘We’re so disappointed’ speech. Then the ‘I never did that to my parents’ lecture begins. After that, even if they realize how ridiculous they sound, they never take it back.”
Lines like “When you have children of your own, you’ll understand” have been seriously said by parents since time immemorial. But many of our expert parents, like Bobby, a registered nurse and mother of three, feel that by falling back on clichés(陈词滥调)to justify our actions, we weaken our position.
Since kids are creatures of here and now, the far-off future has no relevance to them. Therefore, good communicators like Bobby suggest, “Give specific reasons for your actions in present language: ‘I’m not letting you go to the party because I don’t think there will be enough adult supervisions(监护).’”
Betty, who lives in Missiouri, uses an indirect approach. “I find that warnings are accepted more readily if I discuss a news article on a subject I am concerned about. My husband and I talk about it while our children absorb the information. Then they never think I’m preaching(布道).”
This really helped when Betty’s kids began driving. Instead of constantly repeating “Don’t drink; don’t speed,” she would talk about articles in the paper and express sympathy for the victims of a car crash. Betty made no special effort to draw her kids into the conversation. She depended on a teenager’s strong desire to put in his opinions---especially if he thinks he isn’t being asked for them.
【小题1】The purpose of the passage is to _________.
A.compare two ways of parents` communicating with their kids |
B.explain why kids won’t listen to their parents |
C.give parents advice on how to communicate with their kids |
D.introduce kids` reaction to the communication between them and their parents |
A.Kids won’t listen to their parents because they think what their parents say is boring. |
B.Kids don’t like any discussion at all. |
C.Some kids think their parents should apologize when they are wrong. |
D.Many kids think they have no right to express their own opinions. |
A.讨论 | B.对话 | C.插话 | D.独白 |
A.Something related to kids’ present life |
B.Kids possible life in the future |
C.Parents` own experience |
D.What parents have done to their own parents. |
A.tell their kids to listen carefully |
B.arouse kids’ desire to express themselves. |
C.list out as many examples as possible |
D.set out their warnings directly |
【小题1】C
【小题2】B
【小题3】D
【小题4】A
【小题5】B
解析试题分析:本文叙述了现在一些孩子不愿接受父母的一些命令,还有一些独白的演讲,本文给出了一些建议,关于父母如何与孩子进行沟通。
【小题1】主旨大意题。根据综观全文给父母的建议关于如何与孩子沟通,故选C。
【小题2】细节理解题。根据I find that warnings are accepted more readily if I discuss a news article on a subject I am concerned about. My husband and I talk about it while our children absorb the information.孩子喜欢讨论,故选B。
【小题3】词义猜测题。根据that often starts with “When I was your age….”可以猜出这是独白,故选D。
【小题4】细节理解题。根据谈论一些有关孩子的现在的生活,故选A。
【小题5】细节理解题。根据She depended on a teenager’s strong desire to put in his opinions激发孩子的欲望来表达自己,故选B。
考点:教育类短文阅读。
点评:主旨大意题主要是测试考生对一篇文章或一段文字的深层理解程度及在速读中准确把握文章大意的能力,一般针对某一语段或某一语篇主题标题或目的设题。做这类题,关键在于抓住文章要旨。
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