We can make mistakes at any age. Some mistakes we make are about money. But most mistakes are about people. “Did Jerry really care when I broke up with Helen?” “When I got that great job, did Jim really feel good about it, as a friend? Or did he envy my luck?” When we look back, doubts like these can make us feel bad. But when we look back, it’s too late.

Why do we go wrong about our friends – or our enemies? Sometimes what people say hides their real meaning. And if we don’t really listen, we will miss the feeling behind the words. Suppose someone tells you, “You are a lucky dog.” Is he really on your side? If he says, “You are a lucky guy” or “You are a lucky girl”, that’s being friendly. But “lucky dog?” There is a bit of envy in those words. Maybe he doesn’t see it himself. But bringing in the word “dog” puts you down a little. What he may be saying is that he doesn’t think you deserve your luck.[来源:学&科&网]

“Just think of all the things you have to be thankful for” is another noise that says one thing and means another. It could mean that the speaker is trying to get you to see your problem as part of your life as a whole. But is he? Wrapped up in this phrase is the thought that your problem isn’t important. It’s telling you to think of all the starving people in the world when you haven’t got a date for Saturday night.

How can you tell the real meaning behind someone’s words? One way is to take a good look at the person while talking. Do his words fit the way he looks? Does what he says agree with the tone of voice? His posture? The look in his eyes? Stop and think. The minute you spend thinking about the real meaning of what people say to you may save another mistake.

1.In this passage, the writer tries to tell us how to _______.

    A．avoid mistakes about money and our friends

    B．keep people friendly without trusting them any more

    C．avoid mistakes in understanding what people tell us

    D．keep people at a distance during communication

2.In the 1^st paragraph the writer recalls（回忆）some things that may happen between some friends and they _________.

    A．think it was a mistake to have broken up with their girl friends

    B．feel happy, thinking of how nice their friends were to them in the past

    C．feel they may not have “read” their friends true feelings correctly

    D．feel very sorry that their friends didn’t help them and let them down

3.While we are listening to a person, the important thing for us is __________.

A．to check his words against his manner, tone of voice and posture

B．to listen to how he pronounces his words in front of you

C．to notice his tone of voice, his posture and his clothes

D．not to believe what he says in any situation or at any time

4.According to this passage, the underlined phrase “puts you down” can be replaced by another phrase “________”.

    A．makes you pleased        B．makes you proud

    C．makes you feel stupid    D．makes you excited

 

We can make mistakes at any age. Some mistakes we make are about money. But most mistakes are about people. “Did Jerry really care when I broke up with Helen?” “When I got that great job, did Jim really feel good about it, as a friend? Or did he envy my luck?” When we look back, doubts like these can make us feel bad. But when we look back, it’s too late.

Why do we go wrong about our friends – or our enemies? Sometimes what people say nodes their real meaning. And if we don’t really listen, we will miss the feeling behind the words. Suppose someone tells you, “You are a lucky dog.” Is he really on your side? If he says, “You are a lucky guy” or “You are a lucky girl”, that’s being friendly. But “lucky dog?” There is a bit of envy in those words. Maybe he doesn’t see it himself. But bringing in the word “dog” puts you down a little. What he may be saying is that he doesn’t think you deserve your luck.

“Just think of all the things you have to be thankful for” is another noise that says one thing and means another. It could mean that the speaker is trying to get you to see your problem as part of your life as a whole. But is he? Wrapped（包，裹）up in this phrase is the thought that your problem isn’t important. It’s telling you to think of all the starving（饥饿的）people in the world when you haven’t got a date for Saturday night.

How can you tell the real meaning behind someone’s words? One way is to take a good look at the person while talking. Do his words fit the way he looks? Does what he says agree with the tone（语气，腔调）of voice? His posture? The look in his eyes? Stop and think. The minute you spend thinking about the real meaning of what people say to you may save another mistake.

1．In this passage, the writer tries to tell us how to _______.

       A．avoid mistakes about money and our friends

    B．keep people friendly without trusting them any more

       C．avoid mistakes in understanding what people tell us

       D．keep people at a distance during communication

2．In the 1st paragraph the writer recalls（回忆）some things that may happen between some friends and they _________.

       A．think it was a mistake to have broken up with their girl friends

       B．feel happy, thinking of how nice their friends were to them in the past

       C．feel they may not have “read” their friends true feelings correctly

       D．feel very sorry that their friends didn’t help them and let them down

3．While we are listening to a person, the important thing for us is __________.

A．to check his words against his manner, tone of voice and posture

B．to listen to how he pronounces his words in front of you

C．to notice his tone of voice, his posture and his clothes

D．not to believe what he says in any situation or at any time

4．According to this passage, the underlined phrase “puts you down” can be replaced by another phrase “________”.

       A．makes you pleased                               B．makes you proud

       C．makes you feel stupid                           D．makes you excited

The new science of spending comes to a surprising conclusion, How we use our money may     21

    as much or more than how much we’ve got it.

Money spent on experiences, rather than material ,goods,     22    more happiness.

Imagine that you wake up tomorrow morning to     23     ＄1 million under your bed . What would you do     24    that cash?

The money will probably make you think about one thing     25    all else—yourself. A large amount of research reveals that money     26    our selfish sides. We will     27    much on what that money can do for us alone, Perhaps you are imagining buying a faster car, or even a new house,

But studies show that     28    goods often fail to deliver     29    happiness, Fortunately ,our ongoing research     30    many ways to get more happiness from every dollar you spend, Changing how you spend money can increase your happiness.

But making these     31    needs to challenge some of our ideas of spending It’s hard not to     

32    buying a house as a wise investment（投资）, But new research shows it brings very little happiness, A study in the United States found that homeowners, on average , were no happier than     33    .

So, working hard to save money for a house might not be such a good idea     34    it means spending less time with your families and friends.

And dozens of studies show that people get more happiness from buying     35    than material things, Experiential purchases --- such as trips, concerts and special meals--- are more     36    connected to our sense, of self.

And experiences come with one more     37    , They tend to bring us     38    to other people , but more often , material things are enjoyed    39    . So social contacts are important to     

40    mental and physical health.

21、A、present                 B、matter                   C、appear                  D、equal

22、A、carries along        B、breaks out             C、holds on         D、brings along

23、A、keep                     B、own                C、discover         D、count

24、A、to                   B、with                C、about                    D、for

25、A、above                   B、below                    C、before                   D、after

26、A、shows           B、explains          C、proves                  D、designs

27、A、depend          B、concentrate           C、take               D、look

28、A、mental                  B、material          C、beautiful         D、clever

29、A、outgoing        B、lasting                   C、willing             D、exciting

30、A、invites                   B、offers                    C、prefers           D、follows

31、A、changes        B、plans                     C、decisions              D、mistakes

32、A、know                     B、view                C、dream                   D、judge

33、A、buyers                  B、sellers                   C、builders          D、renters

34、A、if                           B、how                C、unless                   D、though

35、A、houses                 B、cars                C、experiences          D、health

36、A、clearly           B、hardly                    C、generally        D、deeply

37、A、advantage            B、conclusion             C、purpose         D、identify

38、A、familiar           B、close                     C、proper                   D、native

39、A、completely            B、worldwide              C、secretly          D、alone

40、A、gain               B、damage          C、improve          D、build