A. Be brave in your requests

B. You get what you tolerate

C. Don’t feel guilty of your requests

D. Don’t think others are mind readers

E. Don’t make a “no” mean more than it does

F. Be specific about what you want and when you want it

Be Bold: Ask for What You Really Want!

Have you ever been in a situation that is causing you to feel annoyed, frustrated, or unappreciated? We all experience them, but often we don’t have the courage to change them or ask for what we really want. Complaining about your problems never solves them. Only when you get clear about what you want, and are willing to ask for it, will you experience not only a lot less stress in your life, but greater success in your relationship, career and life. Here are five tips to help you on your way.

1.________________

We often think our bosses, colleagues and even our friends can understand our thought even without being told. So when they don’t act as we’d like, we feel hurt and upset. For any relationship to develop, both parties have to communicate their needs. Whether it’s how you’d like your colleague to communicate with you about a work project, or how you’d like your boss to assess your work, it’s necessary to convey what you want.

2.________________

When asking for what you really want, you will seldom, if ever, be given more than what you have the courage to ask for. So don’t weaken your requests to avoid being turned down. Think about what your ideal outcome would be and then confidently, courageously, ask for it. While you may not always get as much as you asked for, you will get more than you would have otherwise.

3.________________

In the workplace, the biggest reason for unmet expectations is a lack of understanding of exactly what is expected. A request that holds water needs to make clear not just what you want, but also the time limit within which you want it. That is, both a clear “what” and “when”. For example, “Could you please get the monthly sales report to me by midday Friday?

4.________________

Whether it’s asking your friend to show up on time, or asking your colleague to stop making jokes in your presence, every day, through what you say and do, you teach others how to treat you. Letting others know what you will （and will not）put up with and what you expect from them, is important to your wellbeing and success—at home and work.

5.________________

In reality you won’t always get what you ask for. Your boss won’t always give you the pay raise you’d like and your parents may not agree to mind your three kids every second weekend. When people say no, you can take it really personally and decide never to speak to them again—or you can accept it graciously and move on. At least now you know where you stand and can plan accordingly.

Asking for less than you really want—from yourself, from others and from life—doesn’t serve anyone. Remember that fortune favors the bold. So make bigger, better, bolder requests, and ask for what you really want. Who knows…you might just get it!

 

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A. Be yourself.

B. Be humorous.

C. Have a big heart.

D. Don’t try to be popular.

E. Reduce your sense of your own value.

F. Think of others more than yourself.

Secrets of Being Popular

  To be honest, most people liked to be respected and admired by other people. These are some suggestions which can help you win popularity naturally:

1.__________

  It is a big mistake try to be liked by all people. When you want to impress other people and please them, it is impossible to avoid insincere praise. This will impress people for a short time, but it can not be continued for a long time. You have to base friendship on being your natural self and avoid always trying to win other people’s respect and admiration.

2.__________

  People appreciate those who are considerate of others. If you only talk about yourself and your achievements, people will try to avoid you. People naturally respect those who are willing to spend time listening to others. Only when we put other people’s needs before our own can we become well received by them.

3.__________

   There is no need to pretend to be someone you are actually not. If you are satisfied with who you are, you will allow your natural qualities to be noticed by other people, and this is what will naturally attract them. All real happiness and success come from inside. Besides, people will like you only when you accept yourself.

4.__________

   Learn to be generous and forgiving when you deal with other people. Forget their small mistakes, but appreciate their good points. If you go out of your way to appreciate the good qualities of others, then people will begin to like your generous spirit and be friendly with you.

5.__________

   Some people try to impress people by appearing to be wise and talking all about their own achievements. But when you enlarge your sense of your own value, you only increase your popularity with yourself. If you really do good things, there is no need for you to make your wonderful performance known to the public yourself. Others will do it for you.

 

       How do you get a man to do his share of the housework? If you are like most women, you’ve faced this question the hard way.

       A man will enjoy a clean, orderly house, but he usually won’t make the effort to clean or organise it. This doesn't mean that a woman has to do all the housework:; she may have to manage many of the household duties, and request her partner’s participation（参与）. A woman can often say that men and women should take equal responsibility（责任） for housework.

       Very few men are raised to be fully responsible for housework, and many men look on housework as women’s work. On the other hand, most men will readily work around the yard, make repairs and complete projects on weekends or evenings, and it’s important that you give your man appreciation for those things, too. Most men will take on a little additional housework around the house if asked politely. They are even more likely to do housework if they can choose what they want to do, and do it without being monitored.

       Here’s the key: men want to feel that they are doing housework either because they want to do a task, or because they simply want to please their women. Men are much less likely to take on household tasks they consider uninteresting and unimportant. In other words, men are likely to do a household task just for the good of the house.

The passage is mainly about how to _____.

       A. get men to take on some housework

       B. get men to serve their families

       C. praise men’ housework

       D. make men do all the housework

According to the passage, a man_____.

       A. is willing to do housework

   B. likes to be told to do housework

       C. is taught to be responsible for housework from childhood

       D. likes a clean house but doesn’t make efforts to clean it

In order to get men to do some housework, women should often_____.

       A. order them to do their share

       B. ask them to do some housework politely

       C. blame men’s laziness

       D. monitor men’s work

According to the passage, the underlined sentence in the last paragraph means that men won’t _____.

       A. work without any payment

       B. do unimportant household tasks

       C. do housework without women’s praise

       D. please their wives

According to the passage, which of the following would a husband most probably like to do?

       A. Cleaning the table.    B. Doing some sewing.

       C. Painting the fence.    D. Asking his wife to work on the yard.

How do you get a man to do his share of the housework? If you are like most women, you’ve faced this question the hard way.

A man will enjoy a clean, orderly house, but he usually won’t make the effort to clean or organize it. This doesn’t mean that a woman has to do all the housework; she may have to manage many of the household duties, and request her partner’s joining. A woman can often say that men and women should take equal responsibility for housework.

Very few men are raised to be fully responsible for housework, and many men look on housework as women’s work. On the other hand, most men will readily work around the yard, make repairs and complete projects on weekends or evenings, and it’s important that you give your man appreciation(欣赏) for those things, too. Most men will take on a little housework around the house if asked politely. They are even more likely to do housework if they can choose what they want to do , and do it without being monitored(监视).

Here is the key: men want to feel that they are doing housework either because they want to do a task, or they simply want to please their women. Men are less likely to take on household tasks they consider uninteresting and unimportant. In other words, men are likely to do a housework task just for the good of the house.

1.The passage is mainly about how to ________.

A．get men to do some housework            B．get men to serve their families

C．praise men’s housework                 D．get men to do all the housework

2.According to a passage, a man _______ .

A．is willing to do housework

B．likes to be told to do housework

C．is taught to be responsible for housework from childhood

D．likes a clean house but doesn’t make effort to clean it.

3.In order to get men to do housework, women should often ________ .

A．order them to do their share              B．ask them to do some housework politely

C．blame men’s laziness                   D．monitor men’s work

4.According to the passage, the underlined sentence in the last paragraph means that men won’t __________ .

A． work without any payment               B．do unimportant housework tasks

C．do housework with women’s praises       D．please their wives

5.According to the passage, which of the following would a husband most probably like to ?

A．Cleaning the table                       B．Doing some washing

C．Painting the fence                       D．Asking his wife to work on the yard.