Taking care of unsolved issues of the past will free you to move ahead with confidence. The final step toward putting your past behind so that you can reach for what’s possible is tying up your loose ends. Loose ends are the unsolved relationships that keep you from sleeping worry free at night. You have a loose end if there’s someone you don’t want to run into on a first date or at work. You have a loose end if there’s someone you don’t want to sit next to at a holiday dinner. Loose ends are distracting and have an amazing way of biting you in the bottom at the worst times.

How to Tie Up Your Loose Ends

1．Identify the five people with whom you have the most unsolved issues. These could be past relationships, employers, business partners, friends, family, or co – workers.

2．Contact each of these five loose ends. Invite each separately to a coffee shop or some other nonthreatening, nonalcohol environment. Tell each one that you want to apologize for allowing things to get crossways between you. Some may doubt your intentions, but tell them that you sincerely feel it’s time to clear the air. Ask those who agree to meet to write down any ways they think you wronged them, and you do the same. Tell them to bring this list to your get – together.

3．Show up on time and thank each for being forgiving enough to meet with you. Be an adult here – finger pointing only tears people apart. Remember, your experience may be – and most likely is – totally different from his. Listen to each issue each of them raises and try to see it from their perspectives (视角). Don’t interrupt them when they are sharing. Seek to understand why they have bad feelings toward you. Apologize for each thing they think you did to wrong them (even if you don’t completely agree with his view of the situation).

    After you tie up your first loose end. You’ll want to solve them all. This is hard to explain until you have done it; but once you do, you’ll know what I mean. I learned so much about myself by tying up my loose ends. Most of all, I think this process helped me become a more understanding and patient friend.

1．According to the passage, a “loose end” might be caused by someone         .

       A．who keeps you sleeping soundly

       B．who helps put your past behind

       C．who has different life experiences

       D．who prevents you from going forward

2．By telling his own experience in the last paragraph, the author intends to         .

       A．learn more about himself                      B．describe his own personality

       C．make his point clearer                          D．tell something hard to explain

3．The general tone (语气) of the language in the passage is           .

       A．disappointing       B．exciting              C．critical                D．encouraging

4．The text is mainly written to tell us       .

       A．how to free ourselves from unsolved problems

       B．how to stay away from unsettled problems

       C．when to make an apology to others

       D．why to forgive others who wronged us

TLike most big projects, learning to manage your mother well is what you should do. Here are what I believe the best steps towards a better relationship with her. They are not necessarily surprising or revolutionary, but they have worked for many people. Try them.
Remember your mother’s age. As children, we often do not think of our mother as having an age. Even when we become conscious of her as an individual, age does not change our view; she is still our mother. Knowing our mother’s age, not just in numbers of years but in terms of her psychological and physical state, often helps us to understand her better.
Listen to your mother. I have found that sometimes the things my mother told me long ago are remarkably useful. If your mother knows that you respect her point of view, even if you do not share it, it will help her feel close to you.
Remember that your mother has a past. A key step in managing our relationship with our mother is to find out about her early life. Niclle’s mother suffered much during the Second War World War. “My parents are both Jewish-Turkish. They met in France and married young for love. They were in their twenties when war broke out and because they were Jews, they had to go into hiding. She does speak to me about the war, and I think it is important to know what she went through. It is a part of her life that must have affected her deeply. ” Sometimes, in learning about our mother’s past, we know that it can encourage us to think about her whole life.
Ask your mother about your childhood history. My grandparents died when I was young. If you are fortunate enough to have living family, think of your life as a jigsaw puzzle and ask as many questions as you can to put the picture together. Understanding your roots and your childhood can help you now more clearly who you are, as part of a family which you share with your mother.
Keep a sense of humor about your mother. When we hear about someone else’s misfortunes with their mothers and are amused by them, our laughter is one of recognition. I have often listened to stories of difficult mothers and I have also listened to the following piece of advice they have found most helpful is: “Don’t have a sense of humor failure about your mother. ”
Remember that managing your mother is really about managing yourself. Taking any measure to managing our mother is the issue of how we manage ourselves. No matter how difficult we find her, it is important to remember that is not her behavior it self that is causing us discomfort, but the way we feel about her behavior. We should follow the way of her life. At the heart of managing your mother is being able to accept your flawed self. Only then are you able to accept your mother—-with all her failings.

1. 1.

   The followings are the steps you can take to get on with your mother EXCEPT________.

   1. A.
      Remember your mother’s age and past
   2. B.
      Share your roots and your childhood with your mother
   3. C.
      Have a sense of humor failure about your mother
   4. D.
      Managing your shortcoming while managing your mother
2. 2.

   What does the underlined phrase “a jigsaw puzzle” mean?

   1. A.
      拼图玩具
   2. B.
      浏览迷宫
   3. C.
      填充字谜
   4. D.
      游戏人生
3. 3.

   Which of the following is implied but not stated in the passage?

   1. A.
      It will help you have a better relationship with your mother if you respect her opinion.
   2. B.
      You should follow a most useful piece of advice——a sense of humor.
   3. C.
      The key measure of managing our mother is how we manage ourselves.
   4. D.
      It is unreasonable to expect our mother to change totally from the way she was brought up.
4. 4.

   The main purpose of writing the text is ________.

   1. A.
      to give information about how we think of your mother.
   2. B.
      to improve the relationship with your mother.
   3. C.
      to keep a sense of humor about your mother all day long.
   4. D.
      to accept your mother—-with all her failings.

 Taking care of unsolved issues of the past will free you to move ahead with confidence. The final step toward putting your past behind so that you can reach for what’s possible is tying up your loose ends. Loose ends are the unsolved relationships that keep you from sleeping worry-free at night. You have a loose end if there’s someone you don’t want to run into on a first date or at work. You have a loose end if there’s someone you don’t want to sit next to at a holiday dinner. Loose ends are distracting(转移) and have an amazing way of biting you in the bottom at the worst times.

How to Tie Up Your Loose Ends

1.Identify the five people with whom you have the most unsolved issues.

These could be past relationships, employers, business partners, friends, family, or co-workers.

  2. Contact each of these five loose ends.

 Invite each separately to a coffee shop or some other non-threatening, non-alcohol environment. Tell each one that you want to apologize for allowing things to get crossways between you. Some may doubt your intentions, but tell them that you sincerely feel it’s time to clear the air. Ask those who agree to meet to write down any ways they think you wronged them, and you do the same. Tell them to bring this list to your get-together.

 3. Show up on time and thank each for forgiving enough to meet with you.

 Be an adult here-finger pointing only tears people apart. Remember, you experience maybe and most likely is totally different from his. Listen to each issue that each of them raises and try to see it from their perspectives(视角). Don’t interrupt them when they are sharing. Seek to understand why they have bad feelings toward you. Apologize for each thing they think you did to wrong them(even if you don’t completely agree with his view of the situation).

After you tie up your first loose end, you’ll want to solve them all. This is hard to explain until you have done it; but once you do, you’ll know what I mean. I learned so much about myself by tying up my loose ends. Most of all, I think this process helped me become a more understanding and patient friend.

1.According to the passage, a “loose end” might be caused by someone____________.

  A. who keeps you sleeping soundly     B. who helps put your past behind

  C. who has different life experiences    D. who prevents you from going forward

2.By telling his own experience in the last paragraph, the author intends to__________.

  A. learn more about himself           B. describe his own personality

  C. make his point clearerD. tell something hard to explain.

3.The general tone（语气） of the language in the passage is ___________________.

  A. disappointing   B. exciting      C. critical      D. encouraging

4.The text is mainly written to tell us ________.

A.   how to free ourselves from unsolved problems

B.   how to stay away from unsettled problems

C.   when to make an apology to others

D.   why to forgive others who wronged us

Taking care of unsolved issues of the past will free you to move ahead with confidence. The final step toward putting your past behind so that you can reach for what’s possible is tying up your loose ends. Loose ends are the unsolved relationships that keep you from sleeping worry free at night. You have a loose end if there’s someone you don’t want to run into on a first date or at work. You have a loose end if there’s someone you don’t want to sit next to at a holiday dinner. Loose ends are distracting and have an amazing way of biting you in the bottom at the worst times.

How to Tie up Your Loose Ends

1．Identify the five people with whom you have the most unsolved issues. These could be past relationships, employers, business partners, friends, family, or co-workers.

2．Contact each of these five loose ends. Invite each separately to the coffee shop or some other non-threatening, non-alcohol environment. Tell each one that you want to apologize for allowing things to get crossways between you. Some may doubt your intentions, but tell them that you sincerely feel it’s time to clear the air. Ask those who agree to meet to write down any ways they think you wronged them, and you do the same. Tell them to bring this list to your get-together.

3．Show up on time and thank each for being forgiving enough to meet with you. Be an adult here－finger pointing only tears people apart. Remember, your experience may be－and most likely is－totally different from his. Listen to each issue each of them raises and try to see it from their perspectives(视角). Don’t interrupt them when they are sharing. Seek to understand why they have bad feelings toward you. Apologize for each thing they think you did to wrong them (even if you don’t completely agree with his view of the situation).

After you tie up your first loose end, you’ll want to solve them all. This is hard to explain until you have done it; but once you do, you’ll know what I mean. I learned so much about myself by tying up my loose ends. Most of all, I think this process helped me become a more understanding and patient friend.

1．According to the passage, a “loose end” might be caused by someone ________.

       A．who keeps you sleeping soundly            B．who helps put your past behind

       C．who has different life experiences          D．who prevents you from going forward

2．By telling his own experience in the last paragraph, the author intends to ________.

       A．learn more about himself                      B．describe his own personality

       C．make his point clearer                          D．tell something hard to explain

3．The general tone(语气) of the language in the passage is _________.

       A．disappointing       B．exciting               C．critical                D．encouraging

4．The text is mainly written to tell us __________.

       A．how to free ourselves from unsolved problems

       B．how to stay away from unsettled problems

       C．when to make an apology to others

       D．why to forgive others who wronged us