If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky.

   If you say to your children “I’m sorry I got angry with you, but…”, what follows that “but” can make the apology ineffective: “I had a bad day” or “You noise was giving me a headache” leaves the child who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for this bad behavior.

   Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say “I’m sorry you’re upset”; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.

   These pseudo(虚假的) apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness. Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not turn to these pseudo apologies.

   But even when presented with examples of true regret, children still need help to become aware of how difficult it is to say sorry. A three-year-old child might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old child might need reminding that spoiling other children’s expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old child might need to be shown that taking away the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent’s clothes without permission is not.

If a mother adds “but” to an apology, ________.

       A. the child may find the apology easier to accept       

       B. the child may feel that he should apologize to his mother 

       C. she does not realize that the child has been hurt       

       D. she doesn’t feel that she should have apologized

According to the author, saying “I’m sorry you’re upset.” most probably means “_____”

       A. You have good reason to get upset  B. I apologize for hurting your feelings 

       C. I’m wrong for making you upset     D. I know you’re upset, but I’m not to blame

We learn from the last paragraph that in teaching children to say sorry ____.

       A. their ages should be taken into consideration   

       B. parents should be patient and tolerant(宽容的)

       C. parents need to set them a good example      

       D. the difficulties involved should be taken no notice of

It can be inferred from the text that apologizing properly is ________.

       A. not necessary among family members     B. a sign of social progress 

       C. not as simple as it seems                      D. a matter calling for immediate attention

第二节：完形填空（共20小题；每小题1．5分，满分30分）K^S*5U.C#O%M
阅读下面短文，从短文后各题所给的四个选项（A、B、C和D）中，选出可以填人空白处的最佳选项，并在答题卡上将该项涂黑
One summer in college, I was invited to be an instructor at a high school leadership camp.
I first   36   a boy under the tree on the first day of camp. His obvious   37   and shyness made him appear weak and lonely. Nearby, 200   38  campers were playing and joking, but the boy seemed to want to be anywhere   39   where he was.
I was instructed to care more about campers who might feel   40  . So I   41   him and said, “Hi, I’m Kevin. It’s nice to meet you. How are you?”
42   a shaky voice he   43  answered, “Okay, I guess.”
I calmly asked him to join in the activities and   44   some new people. He quietly replied, “No, this is not really my thing.”
I could   45   that this whole experience was   46   to him. But I somehow knew it wouldn’t be right to   47  him, either. It was going to take more time and   48  .
The next day, I was leading camp songs for the campers. They eagerly participated. But the boy was just sitting alone,   49   out the window.
That evening at our nightly staff meeting, I made my   50  about him known. I asked them to pay special attention and spend time with him   51   they could.
The days flew by fast. When the “last dance” came, surprisingly, the boy from under the tree was now a shirtless dancing   52  . He owned the dance floor   53   meaningful time with others. I couldn’t’ believe it was him.
In that instant, I realized how easy it is to give a bit of   54  every day. You may never know how much each gesture may mean to someone else. I tell this story as   55   as I can, and I advise others to look out for their own “boy under the tree.”
36．A．learned     B．recognized       C．noticed     D．heard
37．A．anger       B．discomfort       C．excitement       D．satisfaction
38．A．ambitious B．curious     C．anxious     D．eager
39．A．other than B．just as       C．or rather   D．as well as
40．A．left out     B．put out     C．made out  D．let out
41．A．passed     B．left    C．visited      D．approached
42．A．At     B．In     C．On    D．By
43．A．unfortunately   B．unwillingly      C．unconsciously   D．uninterestingly
44．A．help  B．interview  C．find   D．meet
45．A．sense B．suggest     C．consider    D．prove
46．A．familiar    B．similar      C．strange     D．typical
47．A．push  B．pull   C．pardon      D．punish
48．A．effects      B．exercises   C．efforts      D．expenses
49．A．observing B．examining C．admiring   D．staring
50．A．trouble     B．concern    C．devotion   D．understanding
51．A．unless       B．before      C．when D．since
52．A．wonder     B．danger      C．scene D．instructor
53．A．sparing     B．saving      C．spreading  D．sharing
54．A．himself     B．yourself    C．themselves       D．itself
55．A．soon  B．far    C．often D．long

My newly-rented small apartment was far away from the centre of London and it was becoming essential for me to find a job, so finally I spent a whole morning getting to town and putting my name down to be considered by London Transport for a job on the underground. They were looking for guards, not drivers. This suited me. I couldn’t drive a car but thought that I could probably guard a train, and perhaps continue to write my poems between stations. The writers Keats and Chekhov had been doctors. T.S. Eliot had worked in a bank and Wallace Stevens for an insurance company. I’d be a subway guard. I could see myself being cheerful, useful, a good man in a crisis（危机）. Obviously I’d be overqualified but I was willing to forget about that in return for a steady income and travel privileges — those being particularly welcome to someone living a long way from the city centre.

The next day I sat down, with almost a hundred other candidates, for the intelligence test. I must have done all right because after about half an hour’s wait I was sent into another room for a psychological test. This time there were only about fifty candidates. The interviewer sat at a desk. Candidates were signaled forward to occupy the seat opposite him when the previous occupant had been dismissed, after a greater or shorter time. Obviously the long interviews were the more successful ones. Some of the interviews were as short as five minutes. Mine was the only one that lasted a minute and a half.

I can remember the questions now: “Why did you leave your last job?” “Why did you leave your job before that?” “And the one before that?” I can’t recall my answers, except that they were short at first and grew progressively shorter. His closing statement, I thought, revealed（显示） a lack of sensitivity which helped to explain why as a psychologist, he had risen no higher than the underground railway. “You’ve failed the psychological test and we are unable to offer you a position.”

Failing to get that job was my low point. Or so I thought, believing that the work was easy. Actually, such jobs — being a postman is another one I still desire — demand exactly the sort of elementary yet responsible awareness that the habitual dreamer is least qualified to give. But I was still far short of full self-understanding. I was also short of cash.

1.．The writer applied for the job chiefly because _________.

2.．The writer thought he was overqualified for the job because _________.

3.．The length of his interview meant that _________.

4.．What does the writer realize now that he did not realize then?

5.．What’s the writer’s opinion of the psychologist?

My l4-year-old son, John, and I spotted the coat which was hanging at a secondhand clothing store in Northampton Mass. While the other coats drooped, this one looked as if it were   36  itself up. The coat had beautiful tailoring, a Fifth Avenue label and a(an)  37  price of $28, which was popular just then with   38  , but could cost several hundred dollars new. This coat was even better, bearing that   39  of classic elegance. John tried it on and the fit was perfect.

John   40  the coat to school the next day and came home wearing a big smile "Did the kids like your coat?" I asked. "They loved it," he said,   41  folding it over the back of a chair and smoothing it flat. Over the next few weeks, a   42  came over John. Agreement replaced contrariness and reasoned discussion replaced fierce   43 . He became more mannerly and   44 , eager to please. He would generously loan his younger brother his tapes and lecture him   45  his behavior.

When I mentioned this incident to his teacher and   46  what caused the changes, she said laughing. "It   47  be his coat!" Another teacher told him she was giving him a good   48  not only because he had earned   49  but because she liked his coat. At the library, we ran into a friend “Could this be John?" he asked surprisingly,   50  John's new height, assessing the cut of his coat and extending his hand, one gentleman to another.

John and I both know we should never   51  a person's clothes for the real person within them.   52  there is something to be said for wearing a standard of excellence for the world to see and for   53  what is on the inside to what is on the outside.

For John it is a time when it is as easy to try on different approaches to   54  as it is to try on a coat. The whole world, the whole future is stretched out ahead, a vast landscape   55  all the doors are open. And he could picture himself walking through those doors wearing his wonderful, magical coat.

1.                A．turning         B．holding         C．showing  D．hanging

2.                A．unreasonable    B．expected       C．unbelievable   D．acceptable

3.                A．teenagers       B．adults          C．women   D．strangers

4.                A．color          B．price           C．style D．size

5.                A．sent           B．carried         C．lent  D．wore

6.                A．casually        B．comfortably     C．carefully  D．quickly

7.                A．happiness       B．change         C．smile D．matter

8.                A．doubt          B．fight           C．argument D．war

9.                A．thoughtful      B．handsome       C．hopeful   D．curious

10.               A．of             B．on            C．with  D．at

11.               A．wondered      B．confirmed      C．concluded D．discovered

12.               A．can            B．must           C．will   D．should

13.               A．present        B．mark           C．word D．result

14.               A．this            B．them          C．it D．one

15.               A．looking up at    B．looking down to  C．checking up    D．taking up

16.               A．trust           B．mistake         C．exchange  D．regard

17.               A．But            B．Though         C．Since D．So

18.               A．attaching       B．connecting      C．relating   D．matching

19.               A．career         B．life            C．study D．success

20.               A．where         B．why           C．how  D．when