Assertiveness is the ability to confidently express your opinions, feelings,attitudes, and rights, in a way that doesn't infringe（侵犯） the rights of others.

    Many of us are taught that it is not nice to consider our own needs above those of others. If someone says or does something that we don't like, we should just be quiet and try to stay away from that person in the future.

    Why is Assertiveness important?

     If you don't know how to be assertive, you might experience:

•Depression - Anger, a sense of being helpless, hopeless, or of having no　control over your life.

•Resentment - Anger at others for taking advantage of you.

•Frustration - Why did I allow that to happen?

     Most people find it easier to be assertive in some situations than in others. This　makes perfect sense. It's a lot easier to hold your ground with a stranger than with　someone you love. But the more important the relationship is to you, the more　ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｔ it is to be assertive. Assertive behavior leads to increased respect from others！

      But before you decide to act assertively, you have to decide if you can live

 with the results. Although assertive behavior usually will result in a positive

 response  (积极的回应)，some people 　might react differently.

   How to be effectively（有效地） assertive:

 •Use "I" statements. Keep the focus on the problem you're having. "I'd like to be able to tell my stories without interruption." instead of "You're always interrupting my stories ! "

 •Use facts, not opinions. "Did you know that shirt has a hole?" instead of　"You're not going out looking like THAT, are you?"

 •Express ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and opinions. "I get angry when he breaks his promises. " instead of "He makes me angry. "

 • Make clear and direct requirements. Don't invite the person to say no. "Will  you please?" instead of　'Would you mind．．．?" or "Why don't you．．．?"

•Keep repeating your point. Use a low level and pleasant voice. Don't try to explain yourself.

1.The writer probably agrees that­­­____________.

A. you should consider others' response before you act assertively

B. you should be assertive if you want to get good marks

C. assertiveness is the ability to infringe others' rights.

D. assertive behavior will bring you bad feelings

2.The expression "hold yourｇround" probably means “_________________”

A. reach an agreement

B. insist on your point

C. keep your word

D. keep on fighting

3.Which of the following helps you to be effectively assertive?

A. Explaining yourself in a soft and sweet voice.

B. Expressing ownership of others' thoughts.

C. Making requirements directly and clearly.

D. Using your opinions instead of facts.

 

---Will you please show me how to operate the new machine?

　 ---Sure. It’s a piece of cake. Now let me tell you _____ to do first.

 

Once there lived an old man in a town. He always forgot a lot of things. So his wife always had to say to him，“Don’t forget this.”
One day he went on a long way alone. Before he left home，his wife said，“Now you have all these things. You need them on your way. Take care of your things on the way.” He went to the station. He bought a ticket and got on the train with it.
About an hour later，the conductor began to see the tickets. He came to the old man and said，“Will you please show me your ticket?” The old man looked for his ticket in all his pockets but he could not find it. He was very worried.“I can’t find my ticket. I really bought a ticket before I got on the train ”said the old man.
“I think you are right. I believe you bought a ticket. All right，you don’t have to buy another ticket ”said the conductor kindly. But the old man still(仍然) looked worried and said sadly，“You don’t know why I’m worried. If I don’t find my ticket，I can’t remember my station. Where am I going? ”
【小题1】The old man bought a ticket _______.

A．after he got on the train

B．before he got on the train

C．when the conductor told him to buy one

D．when he found he had no ticket with him

【小题2】About an hour later，the conductor began _______.

A．to buy the tickets

B．to look for the tickets

C．to check(检查) the tickets

D．to show the tickets

【小题3】 The conductor told the old man that he didn’t need to buy another ticket because _________.

A．the man was very old

B．he thought the old man had no money with him

C．the old man showed him the ticket

D．he believed the old man

【小题4】The old man still looked worried because _________.

A．he couldn’t get on the train.

B．he lost his ticket and a lot of money

C．he thought his wife would get angry with him

D．he forgot where he was going

【小题5】Which of the following(下列) is right?

A．The old man went on the trip with his wife

B．The old man didn’t find his ticket

C．The conductor was also an old man

D．The old man had to buy another ticket

Once there lived an old man in a town. He always forgot a lot of things. So his wife always had to say to him，“Don't forget this.”

    One day he went on a long way alone. Before he left home，his wife said，“Now you have all these things. You need them on your way. Take care of your things on the way.” He went to the station. He bought a ticket and got on the train with it.

   About an hour later，the conductor began to see the tickets. He came to the old man and said，“Will you please show me your ticket?” The old man looked for his ticket in all his pockets but he could not find it. He was very worried.“I can't find my ticket. I really bought a ticket before I got on the train ” said the old man.

   “I think you are right. I believe you bought a ticket. All right，you don't have to buy another ticket ” said the conductor kindly. But the old man still(仍然) looked worried and said sadly，“You don't know why I'm worried. If I don't find my ticket，I can't remember my station. Where am I going? ”

1.The old man bought a ticket _______.

A. after he got on the train

B. before he got on the train

C. when the conductor told him to buy one

D. when he found he had no ticket with him

2.About an hour later，the conductor began _______.

A. to buy the tickets　　　

B. to look for the tickets

C. to check(检查) the tickets　

D. to show the tickets

3. The conductor told the old man that he didn't need to buy another ticket because _________.

A. the man was very old

B. he thought the old man had no money with him

C. the old man showed him the ticket

D. he believed the old man

4.The old man still looked worried because _________.

A. he couldn't get on the train.

B. he lost his ticket and a lot of money

C. he thought his wife would get angry with him

D. he forgot where he was going

5.Which of the following(下列) is right?

A. The old man went on the trip with his wife

B. The old man didn't find his ticket

C. The conductor was also an old man

D. The old man had to buy another ticket

 

Once there lived an old man in a town. He always forgot a lot of things. So his wife always had to say to him，“Don't forget this.”
One day he went on a long way alone. Before he left home，his wife said，“Now you have all these things. You need them on your way. Take care of your things on the way.” He went to the station. He bought a ticket and got on the train with it.
About an hour later，the conductor began to see the tickets. He came to the old man and said，“Will you please show me your ticket?” The old man looked for his ticket in all his pockets but he could not find it. He was very worried.“I can't find my ticket. I really bought a ticket before I got on the train ”said the old man.
“I think you are right. I believe you bought a ticket. All right，you don't have to buy another ticket ”said the conductor kindly. But the old man still(仍然) looked worried and said sadly，“You don't know why I'm worried. If I don't find my ticket，I can't remember my station. Where am I going? ”
【小题1】The old man bought a ticket _______.

A．after he got on the train

B．before he got on the train

C．when the conductor told him to buy one

D．when he found he had no ticket with him

【小题2】About an hour later，the conductor began _______.

A．to buy the tickets

B．to look for the tickets

C．to check(检查) the tickets

D．to show the tickets

【小题3】 The conductor told the old man that he didn't need to buy another ticket because _________.

A．the man was very old

B．he thought the old man had no money with him

C．the old man showed him the ticket

D．he believed the old man

【小题4】The old man still looked worried because _________.

A．he couldn't get on the train.

B．he lost his ticket and a lot of money

C．he thought his wife would get angry with him

D．he forgot where he was going

【小题5】Which of the following(下列) is right?

A．The old man went on the trip with his wife

B．The old man didn't find his ticket

C．The conductor was also an old man

D．The old man had to buy another ticket