If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky.

If you say to your children "I'm sorry I got angry with you, but...", what follows that "but" can make the apology ineffective:"I had a bad day" or "your noise was giving me a headache" leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology.

Another means by which peaple appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say "I'm sorry you're upset"; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.

Then there is the general, all-covering apology, which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that is particularly hurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again. Saying "I'm useless as a parent" does not commit a person to any specific improvement.

These pseudo-apologies(假道歉) are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness. Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not take these pseudo-apologies.

But even when presented with examples of real apology, childfen still need help to become aware of the complexities of saying sorry.  A three-year-old might need help in un- derstanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling other children's expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old might need to be shown that destroying the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that

borrowing a parent's clothes without permission is not.

1.If a mother adds "but" to an apology, ________.

A．the child may find the apology easier to accept

B．the child may feel that he owes her an apology

C． she promises never to do it again

D．she does not realize that the child has been hurt

2.According to the author, saying "I am sorry you are upset" most probably means “_______”

A．You have good reason to get upset

B．I apologize for hurting your feelings

C．I am at fault for making you upset

D．I am aware you are upset, but I am not to blame

3.It is not advisable to use the general, all-covering apology because _______.

A． it is not clear and ineffective

B． it is hurtful and insulting

C． it may make the other person feel faulty

D．it gets one into the habit of making empty promises .

4.We learn from the last paragraph that in teaching children to say sorry_______

A．the complexities involved should be ignored

B．parents need to set them a good example

C．their ages should be taken into account

D．parents should be patient and tolerant

5.It can be inferred from the passage that apologizing properly is________.

A．a sign of social,progress

B．not as simple as it seems

C．not necessary among family members.

D．a social issue calling for immediate attention

 

If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky.
If you say to your children "I'm sorry I got angry with you, but...", what follows that "but" can make the apology ineffective:"I had a bad day" or "your noise was giving me a headache" leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology.
Another means by which peaple appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say "I'm sorry you're upset"; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.
Then there is the general, all-covering apology, which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that is particularly hurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again. Saying "I'm useless as a parent" does not commit a person to any specific improvement.
These pseudo-apologies(假道歉) are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness. Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not take these pseudo-apologies.
But even when presented with examples of real apology, childfen still need help to become aware of the complexities of saying sorry.  A three-year-old might need help in un- derstanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling other children's expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old might need to be shown that destroying the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that
borrowing a parent's clothes without permission is not.
【小题1】If a mother adds "but" to an apology, ________.

A．the child may find the apology easier to accept

B．the child may feel that he owes her an apology

C． she promises never to do it again

D．she does not realize that the child has been hurt

【小题2】According to the author, saying "I am sorry you are upset" most probably means “_______”

A．You have good reason to get upset

B．I apologize for hurting your feelings

C．I am at fault for making you upset

D．I am aware you are upset, but I am not to blame

【小题3】It is not advisable to use the general, all-covering apology because _______.

A． it is not clear and ineffective

B． it is hurtful and insulting

C． it may make the other person feel faulty

D．it gets one into the habit of making empty promises .

【小题4】We learn from the last paragraph that in teaching children to say sorry_______

A．the complexities involved should be ignored

B．parents need to set them a good example

C．their ages should be taken into account

D．parents should be patient and tolerant

【小题5】It can be inferred from the passage that apologizing properly is________.

A．a sign of social,progress

B．not as simple as it seems

C．not necessary among family members.

D．a social issue calling for immediate attention

第二卷 (25分)

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71. I don’t go along with her __________ (宗教的) beliefs.

72. Our school is wildly __________ (赞赏；仰慕) for its excellent teaching.

73. We __________ (道歉) for the late departure of this flight.

74. What nutrients are necessary for a __________ (均衡的) diet?

75. Steel is produced by __________ (使---结合/混合) iron with carbon.

76. You should try to keep the shop’s regular __________(顾客) happy.

77. They are selling everything at a ___________ (折扣).

78. They set out on a daring space ___________(冒险经历)

79. It wasn’t a good thing; on the ___________ (正相反) it was a huge mistake.

80. __________(甜点) is sweet food served at the end of a meal.

VI. 改   错 5%

81. We all should keep our words no matter how difficult it may be.

82. Some people might win awards for their farm produce, as the biggest watermelon or the most handsome rooster.

83. The country, covering with cherry tree flowers, looks as though it is covered with pink snow.

84. Judged by his appearance, he can’t be from the United States.

85. Sir, I mustn’t have driven so fast, for the speed limit of my car is 100kmph.

 

Directions: Translate the following sentences into English, using the words given in the brackets.

⑴. 小组讨论有助于更好地理解课文。 （help）

⑵. 上周因为生病我缺了一些课，但是我会努力赶上大家的。（miss）

⑶. 这个游戏的规则太复杂，三言两语解释不清。（too….to）

⑷. 你该说刚才的所作所为向在场的人道歉。（apologize）

⑸. 我发现很难与那些一贯固执已知的人合作。（…it…）