Most of us long for relationships in which we are loved and accepted. Our hearts’ desire is to give and receive love in relationships that make us feel that even if others disagree with what we do or say, they still love us, accept us, and appreciate what we give to the world. While it would be wonderful to have these types of relationships with all people, we know that’s hard to do. However, we can have such relationships with some others, but only when we first have them with ourselves—and, strangely, this is often the hardest relationship of all.
Do you love yourself? You may think you do, but do you really? There’s only one way to find out— by taking a close look at what you think, say, and do. You may not like some of what you find, but if you are serious about really loving yourself, you can use this insight to do some positive inner work. Here’re three ways for gaining greater personal insight for deeper love:
Listen Closely to Your Thoughts
Your thoughts will determine your actions. One thing helping you to listen to your thoughts is keeping a journal. It is not necessary for you to write in it every day, but it helps to record various insights you gain as you go about your life. Instead of using a big notebook, you might use a small notepad that you can keep in your pocket for easy access to record your thoughts as they occur to you. Whichever method you choose, what’s most important is that you write your thoughts down. It will help you know what’s in your heart.
Be Honest with Yourself
To do this, you should pay attention to your actions. Actions speak louder than words, and they always tell the truth. If you say you love your job, but your actions say otherwise, which do you think is more reliable? On the other hand, if you say you’re not good at a certain job, but your actions say otherwise, that’s also important. What do you do with this insight? You can use it to make more positive choices in your life. By being honest with yourself, you will act according to truth instead of just what you tell yourself.
Take Quiet Time to Listen to Your Inner Voice
This is similar to the first point, but it takes a step further— beyond the natural mind to the heart that cannot be seen. You may want to use your quiet time to think deeply. However you use this time, the key is to shut out all of the noise around you by focusing deep within yourself. Breathing deeply during quiet time will also help you focus. I know it’s hard to find quiet time during a particularly busy day, but it’s so important— even if it’s just 10 minutes a day and you have to hide somewhere to get it. Quiet time can really make a difference in your life.
Despite what your mind may be telling you, you can have love with no limits. The key is to unconditionally love yourself first.
【小题1】. By looking deep into what we think, say, and do, we can         .

Having one of those days—or weeks—when everything seems to annoy you? Even if you do nothing about it, your bad mood （心情）will probably go away after some time. But with a little effort, you can forget it much faster, often within a day or two.

Walk it off

Exercise is the most popular bad-mood buster. A person who’s in a bad mood has low energy and high tension. Taking a fast ten-minute walk, or taking some quick exercise can do wonders towards changing that bad mood.

Tune it out

Listening to your favorite music for a while can also make tensions go away quickly, because music starts associations with past positive experiences we’ve had.

Give yourself a pep talk

Stop and listen to what’s on your mind. Bad moods are often started by too many negative thoughts. Write them all down on paper, including the pessimistic（悲观的）messages you’ve been giving yourself and then give optimistic answers.（“I still don’t have a job.” Vs” I have two interviews next week.”）

Reduce your stress

Relaxation techniques are wonderful mood-lifters. There include de3ep breathing, stretching and visualizing, all of which sound complicated(复杂的)but aren’t. One easy way to visualize, close your eyes and picture a favorite place, such as the beach. Another simple way to unhappiness is to make a to-do list. One reason for being in a bad mood is feeling you have no options. By taking control over certain areas, you realize you’re not helpless. You can make changes in your mood and life.

Avoid things that won’t improve your mood

TV may not help much: you need to increase your energy level and stimulate（刺激）your mind-something that the TV show “Neighbors” won’t do. And before you reach for that piece of cake and coffee, think about how mood and food are linked. Sugar and caffeine contribute to depressed moods. The better choice? Research shows that carbohydrates, such as potatoes and pasta(面食), produce a calming effect on people who have a desire for them.

1.Which of the following may help us stop a bad mood?

2.Why is it suggested that you close your eyes and picture the beach?

3.What can we infer from the passage?

4.Which would be the best title for this passage?

第二节：下面文章有5处需要添加小标题。请从以下选项（A、B、C、D、E和F）中选出符合各段意思的小标题，并在答题纸上将相应选项的标号涂黑。选项中有一项是多余选项。

A．Take actions????????????????????????????

B．Accept Yourself

C．Maintain a Diary????????????????????????

D．Reflect on the Past

E．Focus on Yourself???????????????????????

F．Give Yourself a break

How to Find Yourself

Do you often feel lost？Do you think you are living somebody else’s life? If yes, discover ways to find yourself by going through the following article.

1..­­­­­­­­­­­­ __________ If you are thinking, “how to find yourself when you are lost?”, then the first thing to do is to have a rest from everything—work, personal life and all worldly things. Give time to yourself to think why you seem lost. Is it because of over work? Is it because you are not leading a life that you want to? Or is it because you are not satisfied with the people or things around you? Try to find answers to these questions to determine the cause behind your restlessness.

2.. __________ For once, instead of being the way others want you to be, be yourself. Look within and find yourself in you. Think about the things that you would want to do if you didn’t have any family obligations or any money issues. Think about the kind of relationship you would want to be in, the place that you would like to stay in, the kind of lifestyle you would like to lead, if you didn’t have the society or people around you, judging all the time. If you really want to know how to find inner peace, then think, what you would want others to describe you as—an honest person? Or adventurous? Or loving, or realistic? Once you look within, you will know the answer and then try to be exactly that.

3.. __________? Thinking deeply about the past, the time or situations when you were the happiest, is another way to find yourself .Think what you were doing or with whom you were, when you were the happiest. This will help you to identify things that you want to do in life that make you happy and also certain people whose company you enjoy.

4.. __________?? Knowing yourself and determining what you to do with your life will not come to you in a day or two. Discovering oneself is an ongoing process and it can take months or sometimes even years to truly find yourself. So, it’s important that you maintain a written record of all your feelings and thoughts, which you can go through at a later stage. Pour all your emotions and feelings about life in it and who knows may be one day going through it, you will find yourself.

5.. __________? Once you have discovered what you want to do with your life, make a move for change and self improvement. Even if it means taking up small things such as dancing or painting, go ahead and do it. If you want a career change, plan and take steps so that it can take place smoothly. If you are stuck in a bad relationship and find yourself unable to mend it, break away. At the beginning, you may find yourself slightly unbalanced, but with time everything will be fine.

It is very important for you to truly find yourself, before it is too late. If you do not find yourself now, you will spend your life with somebody you do not even know, i.e. yourself.

I’m fat. I’m too skinny. I’d be happy if I were taller, shorter, had curly hair, straight hair, a smaller nose, bigger muscles, longer legs. Do any of these statements sound familiar? Do you often put yourself down? If so, you’re not alone. As a teen, you’re going through a ton of changes in your body. And as your body changes, so does your image(形象) of yourself. Lots of people have trouble getting used to it and this can affect their confidence. w w w.k s 5 u.c o m

Some people think they need to change how they look or act to feel good about themselves. But actually all you need to do is change the way you see your body and how you think about yourself.

The first thing to do is recognize that your body is your own, no matter what shape, size, or color it comes in. If you’re very worried about your weight or size, go to your doctor to check that things are OK. But it’s no one’s business but your own what your body is like—finally, you have to be happy with yourself. w_w w. k#s5_u.c o*m

Next, find which aspects(方面) of your appearance you can change and which you can’t change and need to accept— like their height, for example, or their shoe size.

If there are things about yourself that you want to change and can do this by making goals for yourself. For example, if you want to get fit, make a pan to exercise every day and eat nutritious foods. w w w.k s 5 u.c o m

When you hear negative comments coming from within yourself, tell yourself to stop. Try building your confidence by listing three things in your day that really gave you pleasure. It can be anything like the way the sun felt on your face, the sound of your favorite band, or the way someone laughed at your jokes.

From the first paragraph, we can infer that_____.w_w w. k#s5_u.c o*m

A．most teens like to have a special body image

B．many teens can’t accept their body change easily

C．teens prefer to change their body image quickly

D．teens usually change their opinions on their body image

Which of the following does the author probably agree with? w_w w. k#s5_u.c o*m

A．Change the way other people look at you.

B．Go to your doctor for advice on how to change your body.

C．Learn from some celebrities on how to change your body.

D．Realize you can’t change everything about yourself.

The underlined phrase “put yourself down” in the first paragraph probably means____.

A．make yourself fall down        B．write down your name somewhere

C．force yourself to do something   D．say negative things about yourself

The passage is mainly about_. k#s5_u.c o*m

A．how to adjust to the changes of your body

B．how to build confidence by changing your body

C．how to keep an attractive body image

D．how to find pleasure in your day

Mr. Ma, a famous mental doctor from Beijing once said at an important meeting, “Now many young students can have many problems with their minds. Some students become worried because they have to study very hard. Others have trouble getting on well with people around them like their parents and classmates. Parents and teachers should care more about this problem.”

Then Mr. Ma gave some examples. One patient, a middle school student from Xi’an was doing badly in his lessons. He thought his teachers and friends often laughed at him, and he became so nervous and worried that one night he left his home without telling parents. Another student, a 14-year-old schoolgirl from Shanghai, was very afraid of exams. While she was reading the exam paper, she couldn’t think of anything to write.

A recent report from Jiefang Daily says about 18% of the young students in Shanghai have mental problems. They often fell worried and very unhappy. Unluckily, many of them won’t go and ask for help. Some think they will look stupid if they go to see a doctor. Others won’t talk about their own secrets.

At the end of the meeting, Mr. Ma offered some good ideas to young people:

◆Talk to your parents or teachers often.

◆Take part in group activities.

◆Try to get along well with the people around you.

◆Go to see a doctor if you often feel unhappy.

The students who often become worried or have trouble getting on with others may have ______.

   A. no parents            B. no secrets       C. poor memories   D. mental problems

The schoolgirl’s problem happened whenever she __________.

   A. studied very hard                       B. had exams      

C. talked with her parents                   D. went to see the doctor

 Some of those with mental problems won’t ask for help because ______________,

A. they don’t want to tell their secrets to others

B. their parents are too busy to look after them

C. doctors can’t help them with the problems

D. they can do with the problems themselves

According to the last part, which of the following is a good idea?

A. It’s important for children to live with their parents.

B. It’s helpful for people to see doctors every day. 

C. It’s useful for students to keep quiet in class.

D. It’s necessary for young people to have group activities.