----Is this the first time you ________ to Harbin?

---- No, but the first time I ____ here, the city wasn’t so beautiful.

A. visited; came    B. visited; have come     C. have visited; have come    D. have come; came

 

How to be a good listener
Everyone loves a good listener. But there are more reasons to develop the skill of listening than to win hearts or popularity contests.
Listening heals hurts and builds bridges. It gives us the ability to understand and empathize, to view the world from our own point. It can bring us wisdom over and above mere intelligence. But most importantly, it allows us to give the people around us the gifts they crave (渴望) most—a sense of worth.
As it turns out, there’s more to good listening than just keeping quiet and allowing someone to speak. Effective listening is actually a combination of two key communication skills: listening and verifying (确认).
Even when we’ve managed to hear a person’s entire message, we often interpret it wrong—according to our own understanding, experience, or prejudice.
As an effective listener, your goal is to hear and absorb what another has to say…in exactly the way they mean it to be understood. Only then can you respond properly.
This is much easier read than done, so here are a few helpful tips:
1. Give the speaker your full attention.
Stop talking and remove all distractions. Turn off the TV, your phone, or computer. Watch your body language. The way you look at the speaker, or the way you stand or sit, makes a huge difference. The right listening body language communicates that we are listening openly and attentively, and puts the other person at ease.
2. Be patient.
Not everyone is a gifted speaker. Some people take longer to find the right word to make a point. Others are too worried to get their message across properly. If necessary, ask the speaker to explain further. It will help him / her speak more exactly and it will help you hear and understand better.
3. Keep your emotions in check.
If what someone is saying creates an emotional response in you, make an extra effort to listen carefully. When we’re angry, frightened or upset, we often miss key parts of what is being said.
4. Hold your fire.
Don’t jump to conclusions immediately. A good listener doesn’t react until comprehension is complete. If you respond in a way that makes the other person defensive, even if you “win” the argument, you may lose something far more valuable.
5. Even if you think you understand. VERIFY.
Never assume you got the message right. Pause, think about what was said, and then ask “Is this what you meant?” or “Am I understanding this right?”
6. Empathize.
Take a moment to stand in the other person’s shoes, to look at the situation from his / her point of view…especially when you’re being told something personal or painful, or something you strongly disagree with. The more shoes you are able to successfully stand in within your life time, the less puzzled you’ll find your life and relationships to be.

【小题1】 of good listening	【小题2】hurts. Building 【小题3】. Allowing us to【小题4】and empathize, and viewing the world in an all-round way. Bringing us wisdom over and above mere intelligence. 【小题5】the people around us feel worthy.
Components of effective listening	Good listening consists of two key communication skills: 【小题6】and verifying.
【小题7】 to be a good listener	Listening to the speaker【小题8】. Trying to be a 【小题9】listener. Avoiding being affected by your emotions. Waiting before you take 【小题10】. Verifying. Empathizing.

 

A friend of mine named Paul received an expensive car from his brother as a Christmas present．On Christmas Eve when Paul came out of his office，a street urchin was walking around the shining car．“Is this your car，Paul？”he asked．

Paul answered，“Yes，my brother gave it to me for Christmas.” The boy was surprised．“You mean your brother gave it to you and it didn't cost you anything？Boy，I wish…” He hesitated．

Of course Paul knew what he was going to wish for．He was going to wish he had a brother like that. But what the boy said surprised Paul greatly.

“I wish,” the boy went on，“that I could be a brother like that.” Paul looked at the boy in surprise, then he said again, “Would you like to take a ride in my car？”

“Oh yes，I'd love that．”

After a short ride，the boy turned and with his eyes shining，said，“Paul，would you mind driving in front of my house？”

Paul smiled a little．He thought he knew what the boy wanted．He wanted to show his neighbors that he could ride home in a big car. But Paul was wrong again. “Will you stop where those two steps are？” the boy asked．

He ran up to the steps. Then in a short while Paul heard him coming back, but he was not coming fast. He was carrying his little crippled brother. He sat him down on the step and pointed to the car.

“There he is, Buddy, just like I told you upstairs. His brother gave it to him for Christmas and it didn't cost him a cent. And some day I'm going to give you one just like it…then you can see for yourself all the nice things in the Christmas windows that I've been trying to tell you about.”

Paul got out and lifted the boy to the front seat of his car. The shining-eyed older brother climbed in beside him and the three of them began an unforgettable holiday ride.

注：urchin 顽童    hesitate 犹豫       crippled 残疾    cent 美分

1.The street urchin was very surprised when ________．

   A．Paul received an expensive car

   B．Paul told him about the car

   C．he saw the shining car

   D．he was walking around the car

2.From the story we can see the urchin ________．

   A．wished to give his brother a car

   B．wanted Paul’s brother to give him a car

   C．wished he could have a brother like Paul's

   D．wished Paul could be a brother like that

3.The urchin asked Paul to stop his car in front of his house ________．

   A．to show his neighbors the big car

   B．to show he had a rich friend

   C．to let his brother ride in the car

   D．to tell his brother about his wish

4.We can infer（推断）from the story that ________．

   A．Paul couldn't understand the urchin

   B．the urchin had a deep love for his brother

   C．the urchin wished to have a rich brother

   D．the urchin's wish came true in the end

 

JAKARTA, INDONESIA - Walking with long steps and his smile lighting up a rainy afternoon, Barack Obama seems to have arrived to visit a school he attended as a boy. But wait. He's not real Obama. The US president is back in Washington, D. C.

    So who is this guy? He's llham Anas, 34, a magazine photographer who has taken advantage of his perfect resemblance(相像) to Obama and turned it into his own wealth.

    When his sister first mentioned the resemblance, Anas dismissed it. Then a friend asked him to pose as Obama in front of a US flag. He also refused. "I'm a photographer, not an object for the camera," he said.

    However, as soon as he accepted the idea, his career took off. Recently a group of reporters followed him on a tour of the school Obama once attended. Anas sat in the classroom where the present US president once studied. He spoke a few lines in English. The moment he opened his mouth, however, the differences became clear. “Obama is a baritone (男中音) ,” Anas said.  “I'm not. I sound like a little boy.” He is also shorter than the president, but he makes up for that by practicing Obama's actions.    

    He says he has made a request to meet President Obama when he arrives, but he hasn't heard back from the president' s schedules. Now he no longer sees an average guy. Now he sees a superstar.

   Now, Anas hopes that Obama will win a second term in the White House. “The longer he's in office, the longer my fame will last,” he said.

1. What does the underlined part in Paragraph 4 mean?

A. Anas also thought he looked like Obama.   

B. Anas was satisfied with his sister's comment.

C. Anas didn't think about the resemblance seriously.

D. Anas didn' t understand what his sister talked about.

2. Which of the following is TRUE according to the passage?

A. Obama has met Anas once in Indonesia.

B. Anas didn't become rich until he got to know Obama.

C. Obama studied in Indonesia when he was young.

D. Anas is a baritone but he can sound like a little boy.

3. We can learn from the passage that Anas now ______ .

A. longs for a simple life             B. is proud of his appearance

C. keeps in touch with Obama         D. wants to become a politician

4. Why does Anas hope Obama will be president in the next term？

A. He is a supporter of Obama.         B. He hopes Obama will see him.

C. He wants to be famous for longer.     D. He thinks Obama is a great politician.

5. What would be the best title for the passage?

A. An Obama Lookalike Becomes Popular in Asia

B. Obama Visits His Old School in Indonesia   

C. A Man Practices Obama’s Typical Actions

D. Obama’s Face and Smile to Be Seen on TV

 

Is this the girl______ whom I can turn for help? Is she good at this subject?

A．to

B．with

C．in

D．at