We do some strange things when we don’t like the way our life is going．Too often we blame(责怪)someone else．‘‘I wish my parents were more understanding．”
“I have such a bad Chemistry teacher!”
“My friends are so boring and self-centered．They make my life worse and worse．’’
Blame! Blame! Blame!
It seems natural to sing this self-pitying song，but the truth is，if you don’t like your life，you should do something about it．No one else knows exactly how you feel or what you need．No one can read your mind correctly．You are the only one with the power to cheek your life，and if you want it to be different，you can change what you’re doing．
When you’re in trouble，don’t give away your power to decide how you feel about yourself. Choose how you want to think and act．Other people can’t make you unhappy or angry．They only act in their own way and then it’s up to you to decide how you will respond(回应)．For example，your friends go out to lunch without you and you feel very angry．How are you going to act? You may blame your friends，“They are not kind．Who needs them anyway?” Or you may tell your friends how you feel，listen to their explanation，and let them know you’d like to be invited next time．
When you decide everything in your own way，you’re getting hold of your own life and shaping(塑造)it according to your tastes and feelings．You can choose to be happy，to make friends and to build an interesting life．When you blame others for what is or isn’t happening in your life，you have stopped growing or learning．
One of the most important rules is that you can never change another person by your direct action．The only person you have the right to change is yourself．Once you change，the other person has something different to respond to and change is possible．If you want change in your life，begin with yourself．
【小题1】What should we do if we don’t like our life?

E
Right and Wrong
Suppose you work in a library, checking people's books as they leave, and a friend asks you to let him steal a hard-to-find reference book that he wants to own.
You might hesitate （犹豫）to agree for various reasons. You might be afraid that he'll be caught, and that both you and he will then get into trouble. You might want the book to stay in the library so that you can read it yourself.
But you may also think that what he proposes is wrong -- that he shouldn't do it and you shouldn't help him. If you think that , what does it mean, and what, if anything, makes it true?
To say it's wrong is not just to say it's against the rules. There can be bad rules which stop what isn't wrong -- like a company rule against criticizing the boss. A rule can also be bad because it requires something that is wrong -- like a law that looks down upon black people in hotels and restaurants. The ideas of wrong and right are different from the ideas of what is and is not against the rules.
If you think it would be wrong to help your friend steal the book, then you will feel uncomfortable about doing it" in some way you won't want to do it, even if you are also unwilling to refuse to help a friend. Where does the desire not to do it come from? What is its motive （动机）behind it?
There are various ways in which something can be wrong, but in this case, if you had to explain it, you'd probably say that it would be unfair to other users of the library. They may be just as interested in the book as your friend is, but read it in the reference room, where anyone who needs it can find it.
These thoughts have to do with effects on others -- not necessarily effects on their feelings, since they may never find out about it, but some kind of damage. In general, the thought that something is wrong depends on its impact （影响力）not just on the person who does it but on other people.
77．The following may be the reasons why the librarian dos not want to help his friend except that
A．he is afraid that his friend might get into trouble.
B．he himself might get into trouble.
C．he believes it is wrong to help one’s poor friend.
D．he wants to read the book himself.
78．Why does the author give some examples of bad rules?
A．Because those rules are said to be strongly negative（否定）.
B．Because he wants to show that rules are not the criteria（标准）for judging right or wrong.
C．Because those rules are made in order to stop what is wrong.
D．Because he wants to support the argument that stealing a book is not a crime.
79．In the sentence “What is its motive（动机）behind it?” (Paragraph 4), “it ” refers to       .
A．the “it ” in the phrase “the desire not to do it”.
B． “the desire” in the phrase “the desire not to do it”.
C．the idea of Paragraph 5.
D．the idea of helping the friend.
80．According to the passage, the author would judge what is wrong                 
A．by what is or is not against the rules.
B．by its impact on other people.
C．by one’s thoughts and feelings towards it.
D．by the kind of damage it does to othes.

We do some strange things when we don’t like the way our life is going．Too often we blame(责怪)someone else．‘‘I wish my parents were more understanding．”

“I have such a bad Chemistry teacher!”

“My friends are so boring and self-centered．They make my life worse and worse．’’

Blame! Blame! Blame!

It seems natural to sing this self-pitying song，but the truth is，if you don’t like your life，you should do something about it．No one else knows exactly how you feel or what you need．No one can read your mind correctly．You are the only one with the power to cheek your life，and if you want it to be different，you can change what you’re doing．

When you’re in trouble，don’t give away your power to decide how you feel about yourself. Choose how you want to think and act．Other people can’t make you unhappy or angry．They only act in their own way and then it’s up to you to decide how you will respond(回应)．For example，your friends go out to lunch without you and you feel very angry．How are you going to act? You may blame your friends，“They are not kind．Who needs them anyway?” Or you may tell your friends how you feel，listen to their explanation，and let them know you’d like to be invited next time．

When you decide everything in your own way，you’re getting hold of your own life and shaping(塑造)it according to your tastes and feelings．You can choose to be happy，to make friends and to build an interesting life．When you blame others for what is or isn’t happening in your life，you have stopped growing or learning．

One of the most important rules is that you can never change another person by your direct action．The only person you have the right to change is yourself．Once you change，the other person has something different to respond to and change is possible．If you want change in your life，begin with yourself．

1.What should we do if we don’t like our life?

A．Change what we’re doing．              B．Read our minds correctly．

C．Sing that self-pitying song．               D．Tell others what we want．

2.If the writer’s friends have dinner together without him，he may _________.

A．ask somebody else to talk to them

B．do the same thing to them in return

C．talk to them and try to find out why

D．forget it and be still friendly with them

3.What’s the writer’s idea about how to change others?

A．He thinks it’s impossible to change others．

B．He believes our love can change everything．

C．He chooses to talk with others directly．

D．He prefers to change ourselves first instead．

4.At the beginning of the passage three examples are given __________.

A．to support the idea that people often blame others

B．to suggest that there are various problems in people’s life

C．to show that not all chemistry teachers are fit for their job

D．to explain the reason why some people’s life is worse and worse

5.What’s the best title of the passage?

A．Blame! Blame! Blame!                    B．Who Controls My Life?

C．Change! Change! Change!                 D．What Makes Me Unhappy?

E

Right and Wrong

Suppose you work in a library, checking people's books as they leave, and a friend asks you to let him steal a hard-to-find reference book that he wants to own.

  You might hesitate （犹豫）to agree for various reasons. You might be afraid that he'll be caught, and that both you and he will then get into trouble. You might want the book to stay in the library so that you can read it yourself.

  But you may also think that what he proposes is wrong -- that he shouldn't do it and you shouldn't help him. If you think that , what does it mean, and what, if anything, makes it true?

  To say it's wrong is not just to say it's against the rules. There can be bad rules which stop what isn't wrong -- like a company rule against criticizing the boss. A rule can also be bad because it requires something that is wrong -- like a law that looks down upon black people in hotels and restaurants. The ideas of wrong and right are different from the ideas of what is and is not against the rules.

If you think it would be wrong to help your friend steal the book, then you will feel uncomfortable about doing it" in some way you won't want to do it, even if you are also unwilling to refuse to help a friend. Where does the desire not to do it come from? What is its motive （动机）behind it?

  There are various ways in which something can be wrong, but in this case, if you had to explain it, you'd probably say that it would be unfair to other users of the library. They may be just as interested in the book as your friend is, but read it in the reference room, where anyone who needs it can find it.

These thoughts have to do with effects on others -- not necessarily effects on their feelings, since they may never find out about it, but some kind of damage. In general, the thought that something is wrong depends on its impact （影响力）not just on the person who does it but on other people.

77．The following may be the reasons why the librarian dos not want to help his friend except that

       A．he is afraid that his friend might get into trouble.

       B．he himself might get into trouble.

       C．he believes it is wrong to help one’s poor friend.

       D．he wants to read the book himself.

78．Why does the author give some examples of bad rules?

       A．Because those rules are said to be strongly negative（否定）.

       B．Because he wants to show that rules are not the criteria（标准）for judging right or wrong.

       C．Because those rules are made in order to stop what is wrong.

       D．Because he wants to support the argument that stealing a book is not a crime.

79．In the sentence “What is its motive（动机）behind it?” (Paragraph 4), “it ” refers to        .

       A．the “it ” in the phrase “the desire not to do it”.

       B． “the desire” in the phrase “the desire not to do it”.

       C．the idea of Paragraph 5.

       D．the idea of helping the friend.

80．According to the passage, the author would judge what is wrong                 

       A．by what is or is not against the rules.

       B．by its impact on other people.

       C．by one’s thoughts and feelings towards it.

       D．by the kind of damage it does to othes.

We do some strange things when we don’t like the way our life is going．Too often we blame(责怪)someone else．‘‘I wish my parents were more understanding．”
“I have such a bad Chemistry teacher!”
“My friends are so boring and self-centered．They make my life worse and worse．’’
Blame! Blame! Blame!
It seems natural to sing this self-pitying song，but the truth is，if you don’t like your life，you should do something about it．No one else knows exactly how you feel or what you need．No one can read your mind correctly．You are the only one with the power to cheek your life，and if you want it to be different，you can change what you’re doing．
When you’re in trouble，don’t give away your power to decide how you feel about yourself. Choose how you want to think and act．Other people can’t make you unhappy or angry．They only act in their own way and then it’s up to you to decide how you will respond(回应)．For example，your friends go out to lunch without you and you feel very angry．How are you going to act? You may blame your friends，“They are not kind．Who needs them anyway?” Or you may tell your friends how you feel，listen to their explanation，and let them know you’d like to be invited next time．
When you decide everything in your own way，you’re getting hold of your own life and shaping(塑造)it according to your tastes and feelings．You can choose to be happy，to make friends and to build an interesting life．When you blame others for what is or isn’t happening in your life，you have stopped growing or learning．
One of the most important rules is that you can never change another person by your direct action．The only person you have the right to change is yourself．Once you change，the other person has something different to respond to and change is possible．If you want change in your life，begin with yourself．

1. 1.

   What should we do if we don’t like our life?

   1. A.
      Change what we’re doing．
   2. B.
      Read our minds correctly．
   3. C.
      Sing that self-pitying song．
   4. D.
      Tell others what we want．
2. 2.

   If the writer’s friends have dinner together without him，he may______.

   1. A.
      ask somebody else to talk to them
   2. B.
      do the same thing to them in return
   3. C.
      talk to them and try to find out why
   4. D.
      forget it and be still friendly with them
3. 3.

   What’s the writer’s idea about how to change others?

   1. A.
      He thinks it’s impossible to change others．
   2. B.
      He believes our love can change everything．
   3. C.
      He chooses to talk with others directly．
   4. D.
      He prefers to change ourselves first instead．
4. 4.

   At the beginning of the passage three examples are given______.

   1. A.
      to support the idea that people often blame others
   2. B.
      to suggest that there are various problems in people’s life
   3. C.
      to show that not all chemistry teachers are fit for their job
   4. D.
      to explain the reason why some people’s life is worse and worse
5. 5.

   What’s the best title of the passage?

   1. A.
      Blame! Blame! Blame!
   2. B.
      Who Controls My Life?
   3. C.
      Change! Change! Change!
   4. D.
      What Makes Me Unhappy?