When someone has deeply hurt you, it can be extremely difficult to let go of your anger. But forgiveness is possible and it can be surprisingly  36  to your physical and  37   health.
"People who forgive  38  less depression, anger and stress and more hopefulness," says Frederic Luskin, Ph.D.,  39  of Forgive for Good. "So it can help  40  on the .wear and tear on our organs, reduce the wearing out of the immune system and  41  people to feel more vital."
So how do you start the forgiveness? Try  42  these steps:
Calm yourself. To defuse (缓解) your  43  and try a simple stress-management technique.
"Take a couple of breaths and think of  44  that gives you pleasure: a  45  scene in nature, someone you love," Luskin says.
Don’t  46  an apology. "Many times the person who hurt you has no  47  of apologizing," Luskin says. "They may have wanted to hurt you or they just don’t see things the same  48  . So if you wait for people to apologize ,you could be waiting a(n)  49  long time. "Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean  50  to the person who upsets you.
Take the control away from your offender. Mentally replaying your  51  gives power to the person who caused you pain. " 52  of focusing on your hurt feelings, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness  53  you," Luskin says.
Try to see things from the other person’s perspective (立场；视角). If you empathize (有同感) with that person, you may  54  that he or she was acting out of ignorance, fear even love.
Recognize the benefits of forgiveness. Research has shown that people who forgive report more energy, better  55  and better sleep patterns. Don’t forget to forgive yourself. "For some people, forgiving themselves is the biggest challenge," Luskin says.
"But it can rob you of your self-confidence if you don’t do it. "

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When someone has deeply hurt you, it can be extremely difficult to let go of your anger. But forgiveness is possible—and it can be surprisingly    16    to your physical and    17    health.
“People who always forgive others   18    less depression, anger and stress and more hopefulness,” says Frederic Luskin, Ph.D., the    19    of Forgive for Good. “So it can help    20    on the wear and tear on our organs, reduce the wearing out of the immune（免疫的） system and    21    people to feel more vital.”
So how do you start the forgiveness? Try    22    these steps:
Calm yourself. To defuse your    23   , try a simple stress-management technique. “Take a couple of breaths and think of    24    that gives you pleasure: a   25    scene in nature, someone you love,” Luskin says.
Don’t    26    an apology. “Many times the person who hurt you has no    27    of apologizing,” Luskin says. “They may have wanted to hurt you or they just don’t see things the same    28   . So if you wait for people to apologize you could be waiting a(n)   29    long time.” Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean    30    to the person who upsets you.
Take the control away from your offender. Mentally replaying（重播） your    31    gives power to the person who caused you pain. “   32    focusing on your hurt feelings, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness   33    you,” Luskin says.
Try to see things from the other person’s view. If you empathize（把感情移入） with that person, you may    34    that he or she was acting out of ignorance, fear—even love.
Recognize the benefits of forgiveness. Research has shown that people who always forgive others will get more energy, better    35    and better sleep.
Don’t forget to forgive yourself.“For some people, forgiving themselves is the biggest challenge,” Luskin says. But it can rob you of your self-confidence if you don’t do it.”
16. A. beneficial                 B. harmful                  C. helpless                 D. suitable
17. A. chemical                  B. wealthy                 C. technical               D. mental
18. A. own                           B. show                     C. direct                     D. prove 
19. A. author                      B. owner                    C. professor             D. publisher
20. A. protect                     B. save                      C. wait                        D. depend
21. A. have                          B. wish                        C. make                      D. allow
22. A. coping                      B. turning                   C. following              D. accepting
23. A. sadness                   B. anger                             C. hunger                   D. energy
24. A. something               B. anything                C. nothing                  D. everything
25. A. thoughtful               B. dull                          C. beautiful              D. still
26. A. call for                      B. hunt for                 C. long for                  D. wait for
27. A. invention                 B. invitation               C. intention              D. attention
28. A. way                          B. means                    C. method                     D. approach
29. A. helpfully                   B. carefully                 C. patiently                D. awfully 
30. A. giving in                  B. giving away C. giving up                D. giving out
31. A. wound                      B. hurt                       C. cut                          D. damage
32. A. Because of              B. Despite of             C. Instead of             D. In search of
33. A. around                     B. above                     C. beneath               D. below
34. A. tell                   B. realize                  C. see                            D. recognize
35. A. housing           B. appearance          C. figure                     D. appetite

Early this morning, I got up to make a batch of Rice Krispie treats（大米花糖） for my neighbor across the hall. She   21  greets me when we see each other, and her little boy, who’s now 4, won’t talk to me either.
Last Monday, she called the firefighters when a pan I’d forgotten on the stove caused my flat to     22  . I had gone for a walk, but when I came home the street in front of our apartment was   23   by a police car, a fire truck and an ambulance!   24   I saw them, I remembered the pan!
I felt safe knowing that    25  we don’t get along, my neighbor had done the right thing and didn’t blame me. Hence, the Rice Krispie treats.
Last Christmas, my neighbor revealed that she had been a little angry about me because of a(n) __26___ four years ago. I had apologized and asked if there was anything I could do to ___27___ our relationship, but she would not accept my     28  .
Her direct refusal really    29   me. After that, I decided I’d just leave her be—a relationship     30   two to work.
So, you see, I was really scared she was going to refuse my offer again,    31    me standing on her     32   holding my plate of treats. Then, I reminded myself of how good I had felt the day before when I’d done some random acts of ___33___ after telling myself: “ Feel the fear, and do it    34   !”
After placing the Rice Krispie treats on a beautiful plate, I opened my apartment door and met her in the hall way. I said：“I just wanted to tell you how    35   I am that you were paying attention on Monday.” I held the plate    36  her, explaining these were very sweet American treats and that she    37  try to see whether she and her family liked them. She took the plate and we talked a bit about   38   she’d become aware of the smoke in my flat before parting ways.
Back at home I    39   a “ happy dance”, because I had been kind even though I wasn’t sure it would be appreciated. I want to be able to be kind without expecting people to    40  in a certain way.

When my daughter Kelsey was a child, she loved to join me in the garden. To 36 chaos(混乱)in my own garden beds, I provided her with a space of her own, so Kelsey’s Corner was born. There she was 37 to dig and plant as she wished. Over time, that small piece of land grew into a favorite place in the 38.
As she approached high school, Kelsey took her 39 off the garden. I didn’t 40 to accept this change. It seemed acceptable that something as boring as working in the dirt gave way to the mystery of a(n) 41 social life, so I began to take care of the space. Even so, I knew it always would be Kelsey’s Corner.
Now my daughter is eighteen and is in the 42 weeks of her high school career. Our mailbox is filled with college admission materials, 43 me that the world has come for this young lady and that she will soon answer its 44. Kelsey is looking forward to her wonderful college life 45 her mother and I are anxious about the coming life 46 our daughter around.
Kelsey’s Corner seems extremely deserted in this early spring 47 Kelsey’s leaving. One morning, when I 48 past Kelsey’s Corner, I noticed some green seedlings had 49 at the foot of some dead stalks(秆).
It’s 50 that life is a cycle. Kelsey’s leaving is 51 one point on the cycle. Now the life wheel will roll with Kelsey as she 52 into her adult life.
Let her live as she will and let her 53 when she can, and whether she comes alone or in 54, she will be welcome home. I’ll take care of Kelsey’s Corner faithfully. It will also cycle annually, rolling on towards a 55 stage of our lives, one that promises a rich harvest.