Remembering names is an important social skill. Here are some ways to master it.

Recite and repeat in conversation

When you hear a person’s name, repeat it. Immediately say it to yourself several times without moving your lips. You should also repeat the name in a way that does not sound forced or artificial.

Ask the other person to recite and repeat

   You can let other people help you remember their names. After you’ve been introduced to someone, ask that person to spell the name and pronounce it correctly for you. Most people will be pleased by the effort you’re making to learn their names.

   Admit you don’t know

   Admitting that you can’t remember someone’s name can actually make people relaxed. Most of them will feel sympathy if you say, “I’m working to remember names better. Yours is right on the tip of my tongue. What is it again?”

   Use associations.(联想)

   Link each person you meet with one thing you find interesting or unusual. For example, you could make a mental note: “Vicki Cheng-tall, black hair.” To reinforce(加强) your associations, write them on a small card as soon as possible.

   Limit the number of new names you learn at one time

   When meeting a group of people, concentrate on remembering just two or three names. Free yourself from remembering every one. Few of the people in mass introductions expect you to remember their names. Another way is to limit yourself to learning just first names. Last names can come later.

   Go early

   Consider going early to conferences, parties and classes. Sometimes just a few people show up on time. That’s fewer names for you to remember. And as more people arrive, you can hear them being introduced to others—an automatic review for you.

1.Most people will feel ______ when you try hard to remember their names.

   A. moved         B. annoyed       C. delighted     D. discouraged

2.If you can’t remember someone’s name, you may ____________.

A. tell him the truth        B. tell him a white lie

C. ask him for pity         D. ask others to help you                

3. When you meet a group of people, it is better to remember ________.

A all their names          B. a couple of names first

C. just their last names     D. as many names as possible

4.What does the text mainly tell us?

A. Tips on an important social skill.  B. Importance of attending parties.

C. How to make use of associations.  D. How to recite and repeat names

 

If you are ever lucky to be invited to a formal dinner party in Paris，remember that the French have their own way of doing things, and that even your finest manners may not be “correct” by French custom．For example，if you think showing up promptly（迅速地）at the time given on the invitation，armed with gifts of wine and roses，complimenting（称赞）your hostess on her cooking，laughing heartily at the host’s jokes and then leaping up to help the hostess will make you the perfect guest，think again．
Here Madame Nora Chabal，the marketing director of the Ritz Hotel in Paris，explained how it works．
The first duty of the guest is to respond to the invitation within 48 hours．And，the guest may not ask to bring a guest because the hostess has chosen her own．
Flowers sent ahead of schedule are the preferred gift．They may also be sent afterwards with a thank–you note．It is considered a very bad form to arrive with a gift of flowers vase when she is too busy to do with that．
See，that’s the logic！The type of flowers sent has a code of its own，too．One must never send chrysanthemums(菊花)because they are considered too humble(谦卑)for occasion．Carnations（康乃馨）are considered bad luck，and calla（马蹄莲）are too reminiscent（令人联想）of funerals（葬礼）．A bouquet of red roses is a declaration of romantic intent．Don’t send those unless you mean it，and never to a married hostess．And though the French love wine，you must never bring a bottle to a dinner party．Why？It’s as if you feared your hosts would not have enough wine on hand，and that’s an insult（侮辱）．You may，however，offer a box of chocolates which the hostess will pass after dinner with coffee．
If an invitation is for eight o’clock，the considerate guest arrives at a quarter past eight．Guests who arrive exactly on time or early are mere thoughtless ones who are not giving the hostess those last few minutes she needs to deal with details and crises．
【小题1】Which of the following is right about sending gifts？

A．If someone in France is dead, send chrysanthemums or calla.

B．If someone in Paris is ill in hospital, send carnations.

C．If you are invited to a dinner party in UK, never bring a bottle of wine, because that’s an insult.

D．If you are invited by a single French hostess whom you love, send red roses.

【小题2】What does the word “considerate” in the last paragraph mean？

A．thoughtful

B．shameful

C．respectful

D．grateful

【小题3】If you are invited to a French dinner, the correct custom is to ______.

A．compliment your host on his cooking

B．arrive fifteen minutes behind schedule

C．hurry to help the hostess

D．show up promptly at the time given on the invitation

【小题4】What is the passage mainly about？

A．Different flowers have different meanings

B．How to send flowers

C．Good manners at a French dinner party

D．Different countries have different manners

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Remembering names is an important social skill. Here are some ways to master it.

● Recite and repeat in conversation. When you hear a person’s name, repeat it._1_ You could also repeat the name in a way that does not sound forced or artificial.

● Ask the other person to recite and repeat. _2_ After you’ve been introduced to someone, ask that person to spell the name and pronounce it correctly for you. Most people will be pleased by the effort you’re making to learn their names.

● _3_ Admitting that you can’t remember someone’s name can actually make people relaxed. Most of them will feel sympathy （同情） if you say, “I’m working to remember names better. Yours is right on the tip of my tongue. What is it again?”

● Use associations （联想）. _4_  For example, you could make a mental note: “ Vicki Cheng???????????????? — tall, black hair.” To reinforce (强迫) your associations, write them on a small card as soon as possible.

● Limit the number of new names you learn at one time. When meeting a group of people, concentrate（全神贯注）on remembering just two or three names. _5_  Few of the people in mass introductions expect you to remember their names. Another way is to limit yourself to learning just first names. Last names can come later.

A. Admit you don’t know.

B. Recite and repeat names.

C. Free yourself from remembering everyone.

D. You can let other people help you remember their names.

E. If you can’t remember someone’s name, you may tell him the truth.

F. Immediately say it to yourself several times without moving your lips.

G. Link each person you meet with one thing you find interesting or unusual.

What’s in a name? Well, apparently, our general happiness. Psychologists say that what we are called has a direct connection with our well-being (幸福).

     Those called Judy and Joshua are the happiest, while Lynn or Ben is likely to be the unhappiest, according to research. Psychologist Dr David Holmes found that this might due to the association(联想)that others made with the name. Hearing the name Judy may make them think of actress Judi Dench or TV presenter Judy Finnigan, people who are seen as good natured and happy. On the other hand, people think Paulines are unhappy because of the character Pauline Fowler from the TV programme East Enders. The research claims that this association influences the person with the name and so their personality becomes shaped to fit it. Dr David Holmes said, "This also has some relation with the original meaning of the name. For example, the original meaning of Judy is 'praised’."

     Certain names also work well in certain aspects of life. In the workplace Richard and Judy are happiest, while those called Ruth and Carly are happiest in relationships. At the other end of the scale the unhappiest workers are Stuart and Liz, with the unhappiest in relationships being Frank and Harriet.

       Dr Holmes said, "The relation we have with certain names, particularly important namesakes(同名者), also shapes how we see ourselves and so may have an effect on our confidence. Names are like product brands in having a powerful effect on attitudes and should therefore be chosen with care."

      "Other names are connected with being brave, outgoing or serious. Therefore, many celebrities change their names to ones which reflect these characteristics. This, in turn, influences parents when they choose names for their babies," said Dr Holmes, "however, names connected with ordinary people are seldom chosen for their babies".

1.Which of the following is NOT a reason why Judy is a good name?

A．The association people make with it.

B．Its original meaning.

C．The high number of famous people who are called Judy.

D．The personalities of famous Judys.

2.According to the passage, which of the following names are better?

A．Ruth and Joshua.

B．Pauline and Frank.

C．Richard and Stuart.

D．Joshua and Ben.

3.The reason why names should be chosen carefully is that___________.

A．good names can make us succeed.

B．names can affect how we see ourselves

C．names can tell us what we should do

D．good names can show others who we are

4.The author may continue the passage with__________.

    

A．names and product brands

B．famous people’s names

C．parents ‘choices of baby names

D．names and personality

5.What’s the main idea of this passage?

    

A．How to choose a good name for babies.

B．How to achieve success by changing a good name.

C．The relation between names and success.

D．The relation between names and happiness.

 

　　If you are ever lucky to be invited to a formal dinner party in Paris, remember that the French have their own way of doing things, and that even your finest manners may not be “correct” by French custom. For example, if you think showing up promptly at the time given on the invitation, armed with gifts of wine and roses, complimenting your hostess on her cooking, laughing heartily at the host's jokes and then leaping up to help the hostess will make you the perfect guest, think again.

　　Here Madame Nora Chabal, the marketing director of the Ritz Hotel in paris, explained how it works.

　　The first duty of the guest is to respond to the invitation within 48 hours. And, the guest may not ask to bring a guest because the hostess has chosen her own.

　　Flowers sent in advance are the preferred gift. They may also be sent afterwards with a thank-you note. It is considered a very bad form to arrive with s gift of flowers in hand there by forcing the hostess to deal with finding a vase when she is too busy to do that. See, that's the logic! The type of flowers sent has a code of its own, too. One must never send chrysanthemums because they are considered too humble a flower for occasion. Carnations are considered bad luck, and calla lilies are too reminiscent（令人联想）of funerals（葬礼）. A bouquet of red roses is a declaration of romantic intent. Don't send those unless you mean it, and never to a married hostess. And though the French love wine, you must never bring a bottle to a dinner party. Why, it's as if you feared your hosts would not have enough wine on land, and that's an insult. You may, however, offer a box of chocolates which the hostess will pass after dinner with coffee.

　　If an invitation is for eight o'clock, the considerate guest arrives at 8:15. Guests who arrive exactly on time or early are mere thoughtless ones who are not giving the hostess those last few minutes she needs to deal with details and

crises, The “correct” guest arrives between 15 to 20 minutes after the hour because dinner will be served exactly 30 minutes past the time on the invitation.

(1) Which of the following statements is right according to the French custom?

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A．When you receive an invitation, reply to it within two days. You'd better send flowers in advance.

B．Arrive exactly on time at the dinner party.

C．Bring a bottle of good wine to the dinner party.

D．Telephone to ask if you could bring a good friend to the party.

(2) Which of the following is right about sending flowers?

[　　]

A．If someone is dead, send chrysanthemums or calla lilies.

B．If someone is ill in hospital, send carnations.

C．If you are invited to a dinner party, send red roses to the hostess.

D．If you are in love with someone, send red roses.

(3) If you are in love with someone, send red roses, what should you do?

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A．Bring a bouquet of flowers when you go to the party.

B．Send a bouquet of flowers afterwards with a thank-you note.

C．Bring a bottle of wine instead of a bouquet of flowers.

D．The hostess will never mind of you send flower or not.

(4) What is the passage mainly about?

[　　]

A．How to hold a dinner party.

B．How to send flowers.

C．Good manners at a French dinner party.

D．Different countries have different manners.