I always reflect on what happened in my life. I think this is important—to appreciate our wins, losses, new passions, insights, etc.       1.       Here are some tips for you on reflection.

1. Focus on the process and not the outcome.

This thought was beautifully summed up by Srikumar Rao. He explains how we fail because

we focus our energies on the outcome rather than the- process itself. When a child learns to walk, she never focuses on the outcome but on the process.

2. Failure is a lead not a stop sign.

When you hit a wall and things don’t turn up the way they are intended, no one is saying to you, “This is where you stop because you failed”. If you do, you are reading the wrong information. Failure tells us, “       2.       Try another method.”

3. Happiness is not the destination but the journey.

We think that happiness is a result that comes after having acquired or achieved something we don’t have. This is not quite right.       3.       It’s about stepping back and enjoying the ride rather than expecting it at your destination point.

4. Wisdom comes from the balance between your knowledge and your heart.

Let your heart talk more; it’s wiser than you think. You can be as knowledgeable and clever as one can be.       4.      Wisdom is really having reached a stage where you balance all your knowledge with your heart.

5. Gratitude is the energy-drink of the soul.

Say thank you to the universe every morning. Appreciation can lift your soul from anxiety which weighs you down. Try it out.       5.       It will help you appreciate life with more depth and perspective.

A. Failure is the mother of success.

B. Happiness is when we accept and enjoy everything as it is.

C. This method and the intended result do not match.

D. Be thankful to at least one thing in your day.

E. Not reflecting on our lives and experiences is a wasted chance for growth.

F. Happiness means achieving your goals and getting what you want.

G. But if your mind doesn’t go with your heart, you are losing energy in internal conflicts.

Do you want to live a happier, less stressful (有压力的) life?
Try laughing for no reason at all. That’s how thousands of people start their day at Laughter Clubs around the world – and many doctors now think that having a good laugh might be one of the best ways to stay healthy.
The first Laughter Club was started in Mumbai, India, in 1995 by Dr Madan Kataria. “Young children laugh about 300 times a day. Adults laugh between 7 and 15 times a day,” says Dr Kataria. “Everyone’s naturally good at laughing – it’s the universal language. We want people to feel happy with their lives.” There are now more than 500 Laughter Clubs in India and over 1,300 worldwide.
Many doctors are also interested in the effects (效果) of laughter on our health. According to a 5 – year study in the body. Laughter improves our health against illness by about 40%.
So, what happens at a Laughter Club? I went along to my nearest club in South London to find out. I was quite nervous at the beginning of the class, to be honest – I wasn’t interested in laughing with a group of strangers, and I was worried about looking stupid. Our laughter teacher told us to clap our hands and say “ho ho ho, ha ha ha,” while looking at each other. However, our bodies can’t tell the difference between fake laughter and real laughter, so they still produce the same healthy effects.
Surprisingly, it works! After ten minutes everybody in the room was laughing for real – and some people just couldn’t stop! At the end of the class I was surprised by how relaxed and comfortable I felt. So if you’re under stress, then start laughing. You might be very pleased with the results!

1. 1.

   In which country was the first Laughter Club started?

   1. A.
      Britain.
   2. B.
      America.
   3. C.
      Australia.
   4. D.
      India.
2. 2.

   How did the writer feel at the beginning of the class?

   1. A.
      Surprised.
   2. B.
      Pleased.
   3. C.
      Nervous.
   4. D.
      Stressful.
3. 3.

   When did the people in the club begin to laugh for real?

   1. A.
      After a few minutes.
   2. B.
      After a few hours.
   3. C.
      After a few seconds.
   4. D.
      After a few days.
4. 4.

   Which of the following is true according to the passage?

   1. A.
      Fake laughter and real laughter are both good for health.
   2. B.
      40% of the people in Laughter Clubs are good friends.
   3. C.
      Adults laugh more often than children in a day.
   4. D.
      Laughing is the best way to prevent illness.

If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky.

If you say to your children "I'm sorry I got angry with you, but...", what follows that "but" can make the apology ineffective:"I had a bad day" or "your noise was giving me a headache" leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology.

Another means by which peaple appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say "I'm sorry you're upset"; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.

Then there is the general, all-covering apology, which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that is particularly hurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again. Saying "I'm useless as a parent" does not commit a person to any specific improvement.

These pseudo-apologies(假道歉) are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness. Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not take these pseudo-apologies.

But even when presented with examples of real apology, childfen still need help to become aware of the complexities of saying sorry.  A three-year-old might need help in un- derstanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling other children's expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old might need to be shown that destroying the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that

borrowing a parent's clothes without permission is not.

1.If a mother adds "but" to an apology, ________.

A．the child may find the apology easier to accept

B．the child may feel that he owes her an apology

C． she promises never to do it again

D．she does not realize that the child has been hurt

2.According to the author, saying "I am sorry you are upset" most probably means “_______”

A．You have good reason to get upset

B．I apologize for hurting your feelings

C．I am at fault for making you upset

D．I am aware you are upset, but I am not to blame

3.It is not advisable to use the general, all-covering apology because _______.

A． it is not clear and ineffective

B． it is hurtful and insulting

C． it may make the other person feel faulty

D．it gets one into the habit of making empty promises .

4.We learn from the last paragraph that in teaching children to say sorry_______

A．the complexities involved should be ignored

B．parents need to set them a good example

C．their ages should be taken into account

D．parents should be patient and tolerant

5.It can be inferred from the passage that apologizing properly is________.

A．a sign of social,progress

B．not as simple as it seems

C．not necessary among family members.

D．a social issue calling for immediate attention

If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky. If you say to your children “I’m sorry I got angry with you, but…” what follows that “but” can render the apology ineffective:” I had a bad day” or “your noise was giving me a headache” leaves the person who has been inured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology.

Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say “I’m sorry you’re upset”; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing(承认) yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.

Then there is the general, all covering apology, which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that was particularly hurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again. Saying “I’m useless as a parent” does not commit a person to any specific improvement.

These pseudo-apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness, Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not resort(求助) to these pseudo-apologies.

But even when presented with examples of genuine(真正的) contrition(悔悟), children still need help to become a ware of the complexities(复杂性) of saying sorry. A three-year-old might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling other children’s expectations can require an apology. A 12 year-old might need to be shown that raiding(搜捕) the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent’s clothes without permission is not.

1．If a mother adds “but” to an apology, ___________.

       A．she doesn’t feel that she should have apologized.

       B．she does not realize that the child has been hurt

       C．the child may find the apology easier to accept

       D．the child may feel that he owes her an apology

2．According to the author, saying “I’m sorry you’re upset” most probably means “_____”

       A．You have good reason to get upset

       B．I’m aware you’re upset, but I’m not to blame

       C．I apologize for hurting your feelings

       D．I’m at fault for making you upset

3．We learn from the last paragraph that in teaching children to say sorry _______.

       A．the complexities involved should be ignored

       B．their ages should be taken into account

       C．parents need to set them a good example

       D．parents should be patient and tolerant

4．It can be inferred from the passage that apologizing properly is ________.

       A．a social issue calling for immediate attention

       B．not necessary among family members

       C．a sign of social progress

       D．not as simple as it seems

My wife and I used to feel that it was impossible to be a true friend to someone whose name we didn’t know. How wrong we were! Years of Sunday-morning bus trips through the city with the same group of “nameless” people have changed our thinking.

Before the bus takes off, we all join in a conversation: where’s the silent woman who sits up front and never responds to our cheery greetings? Here she comes. Her worn clothing suggests she doesn’t have much money to spare, but she always takes an extra cup of coffee for the driver.

We get smiles from a Mexican couple as they get on the bus hand in hand. When they get off, they’re still holding hands. The woman was pregnant late last year, and one day her change of shape confirmed that she’d delivered the child. We even felt a little pride at the thought of our extended family.

For many months, our only sadness lay in our inability无能无力 to establish the same friendship with the silent woman at the front of the bus. Then, one evening, we went to a fish restaurant. We were shown to a table alongside someone sitting alone. It was the woman from the bus.

We greeted her with friendly familiarity we’d shown all year, but this time her face softened, then a shy smile. When she spoke, the words escaped awkwardly( 笨拙地) from her lips. All at once we realized why she hadn’t spoken to us before. Talking was hard for her.

Over dinner; we learned the situation of a single mother with a disabled son who was receiving special care away from home. She missed him desperately不顾一切地, she explained.

“I love him… and he loves me, even though he doesn’t express it very well,” she murmured. “Lots of us have that problem, don’t we? We don’t say what we want to say, what we should be saying. And that’s not good enough.”

The candles flared on our tables. Our fish had never tasted better. But the atmosphere grew pleasant, and when we parted as friends—we shared names.

1.Which of the following might be the best title of this passage?

2.All the following statements can describe the woman except ______.

3.The underlined word “establish” in the fourth passage probably has the same meaning as _____.

4.The woman had the same problem with her son in the way that ______.