We do some strange things when we don't like the way our life is going. Too often we blame(埋怨)
someone else.
     "I wish my parents were more understanding."
     "I have such a bad Chemistry teacher!"
     "My friends are so boring and self-centred. They make my life worse and worse."
     Blame! Blame! Blame!
     It seems natural to sing this self-pitying song, but the truth is, if you don't like your life, you should do
something about it. No one else knows exactly how  you feel or what you need.  No one can read your
mind correctly. You are the only one with the  power(能力) to  check your life, and if you want it to be
different, you can change what you're doing. This means asking.. "What do I need? What do I want to
do?" instead of trying to meet others'  needs. For example,  try  to  decide how you want to spend your
evening instead of asking somebody else for advice. We teach other people how we want to be treated.
If we don't think of our own needs, no one else will either.
     When you're in trouble, don't give away your power to decide how you feel about yourself. Choose
how you want to think and act(行动). Other people can't make you unhappy or angry. They only act in
their own way and then it's up to you to decide how you will respond(回应). For example, your friends
go out to lunch withou t you.  You feel angry.  How are you going to act?  You may blame your friends.
"They're not kind. Who needs  them anyway?"  or  you may tell your friends how you feel, listen to their
explanation(解释), and let them know you'd like to be invited next time.
     When you decide everything in your own way,  you're  getting  hold  of your own life and shaping it
according  to  your tastes  and feelings.  You can  choose to be happy, to make friends and to build an
interesting life. When you blame others for what is  or  isn't  happening  in  your life,  you have stopped
growing or learning.
     One of the most important rules is that  you  can  never  change another person by your direct action.
The only person you have the right and power to change is yourself. Once you change, the other person
then has something different to respond to and change is possible. If you  want change in your life, begin
with yourself...put love into your power to take action.

1．What should we do if we don't like our life?

A．Sing that self-pitying song.
B．Read our minds correctly.
C．Change what we're doing.
D．Tell others what we want.

2．If the writer's friends have dinner together without him, he may ________.

A．forget it and be still friendly with them
B．talk to them and try to find out why
C．do the same thing to them in return
D．ask somebody else to talk to them

3．What's the writer's idea about how to change others?

A．He thinks it's impossible to change others.
B．He believes our love can change everything.
C．He chooses to talk with others directly.
D．He prefers to change ourselves first instead.

4．How many points of view(观点)are mentioned in the passage?

A．Three.
B．Four.
C．Five.
D．Six.